I hate being a parent

Glad I found this. Do a lot of women try to trap men with kids? I hear about it but have never really seen it with people I know. If so I should be careful.

Men also try to trap women with kids, it’s not a one way street. Trust me.

Try having a son who's slow as f*ck & a younger daughter who cries every 2 minutes who both fight constant & neither of them do as they told- it does my head in- I don't have a life- I cant work or do much else because of an injury, so the only respite I get is when they are at school, but I'm usually sleeping through the day & up all night in the off chance that they don't get up during the night, but even that's a rarity. Life ** & I'm sick of it. You cant discipline them anymore because the government are so pig headedly stupid & ignorant. So kids run riot & we cant do anything about it or we are seen as bad parents, yet ironically we are seen as bad parents if we DO try & keep them under control & the government have the audacity to complain about youth crime?! The little sh*ts should be seen & not heard & these retarded politicians mothers should have swallowed instead on the nights of their conception

Have you heard of sparing the rod and spoiling the child? Whip your children or they’ll end up in prison or worse. ** the govt, they’re not raising your kids, you are! You 2 consented to ** and that leads to pregnancy, should’ve wrapped it up.

Your parents must really regret and hate you for you to be so bitter and twisted at such a young age. You won't be 18 for long either, enjoy it while it lasts because its over quick as a flash and the monotony of adult life will sink in kids or not.

Waah waah waah. You forgot to use the word "jealous" somehow, little princess. Go back to junior high and think about how stupid you sound when you try to contribute to an adult conversation.

I'm 26 and had twin sons at 23. They are such an emotional/economic drain that I can't believe it. I just want my life back.

I was on the pill at the time I became pregnant. Evidently the antibiotics I took at one point for an illness made it less effective, and I wasn't protected when I thought I was. At the time I was single and, well, enjoying college, including the social life. I was never a **--I lost my virginity at 20 and have never had more than 4 partners in my entire life. At the time I got pregnant, I was having casual ** with a couple of my friends (sometimes together), and it was a shock to us all when I told them that I was preggers. I was raised pro-life, and that didn't resonate well, so I told both of them to "get the ** out of my life, I won't even ask for a paternity test."

I've been married for a year to a wonderful guy who has taken me and my kids on as family. I work part-time, so we don't have to pay as much for child care (saves us money), but my husband makes minimum wage. It is a massive grind to keep food on the table, the lights on in our studio apartment, and the kids clothed (they grow so fast). Thankfully we qualify for local community assistance, but I wish daily that I didn't have kids. Life would be so much easier.

Are you still pro-life? I have 4 of my own and I hate it too, but I've advised my kids that if they aren't sure that they can deal with the 24/7 grind, then they should totally have an abortion. **, I'll drive and pay for it. I love them too much to put them through this **.

Thanks for your reply. Yes, I'm still pro-life, although I wish I had been strong enough to give them up for adoption. At the time, I couldn't do it. It was way too emotional. If I could have that opportunity back, I'd do it. Life ** with kids.

That’s God’s punishment for you for being fornicating harlot. Now you’ve made your bed, you are lying in it. Oh well. No sympathy from me. I don’t feel sorry for other people’s asinine decisions.

KILL YOUR CHILDREN!!

Yeah and get life in jail? Still have no freedom or life would you.

At least you'd have peace. Relatively speaking.

You must have never have been to prison. Trust me, after an almost 5 year bid I’d rather take irritation of kids. I have them and I hate my life, and tell my kids not to have kids. Or if they do wait until they’ve done everything, or have often rich. But I’d still pick them over life in prison

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I totally understand.

I have two kids and I regret it every day. I could be retired early and living a chilled existence, but instead I have these ungrateful parasites.

Not their fault. I blame myself for not being stronger and saying no.

Oh this resonates so much. I did the calculations recently and was so saddened by just how much money I could have saved had I not had my child.

I blame myself too. And know I'll never be able to forgive myself.

I could've bought a house, travelled off the savings, worked remotely from anywhere in the world.

I would have more energy. This is fact. When my child is away from me for a few hours it's like my energy levels top up and I feel alive again; like I can do or be anything. It doesn't last though.

Yes, I too could have retired by now. I put myself through college and graduate school. Instead I'm working terrible jobs just to keep a roof over our heads.

I just want to die already!

I've been close to having kids but I realize it's not like an item you can go return if you realize the routines finances and responsibility are more than what you thought you signed up for. Hang in there and enjoy the small things and moments. Best of luck.

Start doing your own thing twice a week. Hire a baby sitter. Hire a maid. Then you will have some time for yourself.

Not all of us have the $ to do that.

You would if you hadn't insisted on making more people for some selfish unthinking reason.

So, because this is an open forum, I will post again and again if I want to, idiot breeder. ** up the pain of parenthood and deal with it. I'm glad I realized that having kids was a choice and stupid choice at that. I can't wait to get an IUD.

You must have no life, no gf or bf or passions to come and try to bully people. You are equally miserable. I don't have kids by choice but feel for people who now do and don't want to abandon their commitments. Hope you find happiness.

You just bullied someone for daring to have an opinion. Maybe follow your own advice.

Everyone is free to make their own choices. You’re not an idiot just because you have kids.

Or bilateral salpingectomy🤗 no birth control to worry about taking. I get annoyed sometimes with parents, not all but for those who victimize themselves and if you victimize yourself, YOU did something wrong and unable to own up to it. Like one person had one night of passion and 9 months later, complaining and crying and regretting it>> YOU knew what you got yourself into, why should I sympathize for you for what YOU'VE caused and now can’t ever escape unless you abort or abandon the child. Tough **

PSA: There are many natural techniques to avoid pregnancy that don't involve mutilating your body.

Option 1: sympto-thermal fertility tracking.

Option 2: Queen Anne's Lace tincture (aka carrot seed tincture) 8 hours after unprotected **, then again 12 hours later, then once more 12 hours after that. The plant prevents an egg from implanting in the cervix. Side effect is very mild cervical cramping. But it works to prevent pregnancy if you do it correctly.

Everywhere you look, life is being reproduced. Why does it have to ** so bad for humans?

For real!

My husband and I are long time married (over 50 years) and now in our 70's. We have three children (sons), and frankly, if we could do it over, we would not have any children.
They're just not worth the aggravation and heartache.
We were good to them, but as soon as they acquired partners, the women turned them against us, even though we never interfered.
But they all knew where to come if they needed money or got into a jam.
Children are our biggest regret.
Ungrateful bastards.

My heart goes out to you. I have an only child son and my wife and I have decided if he and a future partner turn their backs on us we are leaving our estate to charity.

We have already decided on this matter.
I would rather help homeless animals, or some worthy charity, than give anything to our children.
Undoubtedly, after we're gone, we will be cursed and criticized by our sons, who will receive $20.00 each. We were advised to leave them a token amount, to show they had not been forgotten, so our final wishes could not be contested. Most of our assets are in an unbreakable, incontestable trust.
They will be shocked to learn that some charities will be splitting almost three million dollars, and they will get twenty bucks each.
Curse away, my sons, curse away. You reap what you sow.

Your sons must have done some pretty bad stuff to be left out the will like that. If not and its just that you resent their existence then ** **.

Love it

Wow. I’m immensely sorry for your loss. And you’re right. 70% parents regret having kids... least you guys finally have peace within yourselves and together.

I'm right there with you. Had my first at 20. 3 miscarriages and 2 still births later and we have our second now. I'm 28, I ** hate my life. I should've just left my wife but I couldn't do it to her.

Wow, all the stress and heartache of your losses for a lifestyle you hate. You really don't know what people are feeling behind closed doors.

This is why I'm glad mine are less than two years apart. ** for me would be having a child of school age and having to start the baby ** again. No thanks. Both mine like similar things and can entertain and play with each other meaning i dont have to do as much entertaining. I'd rather be shot dead than have anymore kids, got a boy and girl and im done. I feel for you it is ** alot of the time. Bedtime is the worst for me

Ok, 3 miscarriages and 2 stillbirths is God telling you, you don’t need them, but since you stubbornly had a second and NOW miserable, should’ve listened to God. He does things for reasons...your loss. I would take a hint and stop at 1 child. But I don’t have any, so yay me! 🤗

When I see or hear about older couples or single individuals/coworkers who have no kids I automatically feel bad for them. I assume they have no one. No one to get them from the hospital for a minor appointment or major surgery. They return to empty homes where the food they left on table is right where they left it. Nothing has moved an inch since they locked that door when they left. No holiday plans unless they go some place solo or get invited as a third wheel or the person everyone talks about who he is still single. Society just expects us and is designed for us to have kids.

Anyone think bout this?

Do you realize many people who are married with kids feel just as "lonely" as someone as you described? 50% divorce rate in this country. You can be married and miserable, you can have kids and be miserable. It's all about perception because a lot of single people without kids surround themselves with plenty of friends that they acquired over the years. I know many moms who are struggling to find other "mom" friends.

I am one of those. I don't connect or relate to other mums and am not interested in their kids, i have my own. I'd like a friend with no kids but alas i dont have anything in common with them anymore. I had a good male friend for 8 years and his jealous ** of a new girlfriend made him end our friendship.

Many people get pets for the reasons you mentioned that you just fine .

I would never burden my child to pick me up from a medical appointment or to feel obligated to hang out with me. If it happens naturally great, but if not I will be content on my own. What a stupid, selfish reason to have children.

I wish I was them. I would give my right arm to get back the life I had before I gave birth. Some people like parenting and some people hate it. I envy those who are single with no children. They have a freedom and piece of mind that can never ever be returned to me now that I am a parent.

Why would you automatically feel bad for them? I have tons of friends (married/dating/single) without kids, and they have good relationships with their family, friends and community.
I don’t think having kids is for everybody.

Having kids is definitely not for everyone! It certainly isn't for me. I used to like playing with my friends kids and thought I'd like kids of my own. Didn't think about how crappy it'd actually be being a parent. Like when I left it was my friends dealing with all the headaches and annoyances. I left and went about my footloose and fancy free life. Had I a crystal ball and seen my future I wouldn't have done it any of it. Unfortunately I don't have anyone to vent these emotions to we live in such a judgmental world. If I told this to my parents they'd look at me like I had yellow skin with pink polka dots all over me. And say what a brat I am. But I'm sorry I just feel no joy or fulfillment at all in parenting.

BS!! No one should have kids to have a built-in support system. Do you realize how many people are estranged from their kids?? And how many parents only hear from their kids when said kids want something? And how many people rot in nursing homes because their kids can't be bothered? Better off putting all the money spent on raising them into investments, then you'll have plenty to pay caretakers when you need them.

My only consolation is that when I'm 40 my kids will be nearly grown (17 & 15) and i might just be able to carve out a bit of freedom and a life. I long for my child free, careless days of being a teen so much. I loved that period of my life. When i die i hope i get to spend eternity as a beautiful, Slim, carefree 16-19year old again. I miss my old life and happiness so much.

You won't spend eternity as a "beautiful, slim, carefree 16-19 year old". Especially when you had no kids. Those days are over. They ended when your child came out of the womb. If you miss your free days, you should have gotten an abortion. You have no one to blame but yourself.

You are horrible. No need for that, **.

Too bad, so sad. I'm not the one who ruined my life with a parasite. Forever childfree!

Sounds like you were dealt some bad cards in life. You either weren't able to find anyone to have kids with or are not capable due to health reasons. No one who made a decision that they are happy with would respond in such a manner. I am childfree out of choice but do see the pros of having kids as well. They don't outweighs the cons so I haven't had kids so far. Seems as you are bitter and do not have that choice. Maybe you are a woman over 45. Who knows lol. This thread is full of your constant gloating which most people have caught on to. Thank God for internet and anonymity lol

You posted that stupid comment twice, lmao. Poor hag. I know you're jealous of the childfree, especially 18 year olds. Kill yourself.

I'm the person who posted this. Even if id not had kids i would age and not be a beautiful carefree teen forever anyway. That's life doesn't stop me reminiscing. Lol. I'd have regretted never having any too so really you can't win. Barren women should keep their bitter thoughts out of these posts which are for parents. I love my kids and was having a bad day when I posted on here. I'm not a natural parent but at least i have achieved something in having my beautiful clever kids.

Who said anything about being "barren", although I would love to. I have a working reproductive system but unlike you, I'm not going to make the stupid decision of using it. And what did you achieve? Absolutely nothing. Your ** goblins aren't special. Nor are they "beautiful or clever". Good job at proving your ignorance.

True to the rest, no on abortion. I’m neither pro life or choice, it’s common knowledge but regardless, yeah I agree that once you grow a life in you, it’s not about you anymore, you’ll have some days of your life to yourself but you shouldn’t have had unprotected **. Oh well.

I am lying in bed now, feeling miserable as i do everyday, dreading starting another day of whinging, mess, boredom, frustration, anger and just pure **. I wish i didn't hate this but i do and its getting harder to hide it and contain my anger everyday that passes. I hate being a mum so much. It's life ruining.

It's life ruining because western society's model is against people. If we were living all like a big family - things would be different, for sure. <3

Yep. We Mother's are looked down on in this society especially if we haven't got a lot of money or a 'decent' job/career. No one helps us cos family are too busy chasing money and social status, both of which are out of reach for mother's like me. Sigh.

Aww, poor thing! Because you just had to grunt out a kid, everyone looks the other way when you come in late, leave early, are constantly on the phone, and demand holidays because "I want to be with my family." Kids are a total meal ticket in this society and you're willfully pretending that isn't true. Martyr mommies are either demanding breaks right and left or playing the "poor me" card. The rest of us are tired of both versions of you. Either step up and be a responsible parent or don't breed. Since it's too late for you, do the job you created for yourself-- quietly.

You obviously didn't think that response through.

Oh my god. You think mothers are "looked down on in this society"? Try being a woman who chose to never have children, especially in any situation where you are surrounded by mommies.

Gloat or brag about your freedom and leisure. Don’t forget about sleeping in.

This thread worries me. I am with someone who wants kids. Only I know how difficult it was to find that someone I am with now. Everyday I talk myself into reasons as to why I should have a baby . Tax return credits, joint income will make the finances of having a baby less, a day care based out of someone's house won't be as expensive, I will have a companion at home who will never leave (my partner), I will have more things to do on weekends, so on and so forth. As you can see none of my reasons include wanting to have a baby and see him or her grow. I am slowly caving into what society dictates because I don't want to go through life alone. I have a feeling I may be posting on here again very soon.

I truly believe the only reason to have a child is because YOU want a child. Otherwise, you're fooling yourself into thinking you won't be spending some of your loneliest years ahead of you. Just because you have a mate doesn't mean you won't feel alone in the end if you make a choice in going against who you are as a person. Best wishes:)

Rest homes are full of parents whose kids never visit them. Try another bingo, your "you'll be lonely if you don't breed" one is defective.

Don’t be a fool and settle for someone so low because you don’t want to be single anymore. If they keep bugging you to have a baby AND you don’t want one, ditch that fool and enjoy your life. Is it that difficult? No means no!

I'm grateful for this thread. I go to therapy out of some sort of expectation. But I know what's wrong with me. I don't want to be a parent. I love my child but I feel imprisoned by parenthood. I'm confined and there's never going to be a way out. And when there is a tiny semblance of hope, when my child eventually moves out, I'll be too old and too tired from my years of servitude to even care about living life and going after my dreams blah blah. I'll have no money or savings and no energy.

I want to tell my therapist this is the reason I tried to kill myself. I want to say that being a parent fills me with such depression and anxiety. I wish I could tell my therapist that I wanted to set myself free from the sadness and guilt for why I feel this way. I'm exhausted and can't see myself being here anymore. The confinement is suffocating and the heaviness is unbearable.

I read somewhere that becoming a parent feels like you die so your child can live. All your hopes and dreams, your free spirit (if you were one before child) your desires to travel, your creativity, your ambition all gone. It sure feels like it. There's no more to me. I have nothing left to give so why drag out the pain any longer.

This is so sad. I hope you feel better. That was a year ago and maybe you've told your therapist about your real difficulties. If not, do so. She/He's not there to jugde you, he won't. He's not your father, that's why we pay them for. if you don't feel listened and understood, then change therapists. There are solutions. If you're a man, it's easier to walk out, and a child feels way much better with a happy father he sees twice a month than with a miserable father he sees every day, I can tell you because I cherish the day my mother left my father.

What if this is a woman? Or does a father only get the option to leave and have a life sans kids?

You know, I say it's time women start leaving. Leave the kids with their dads. Women have been carrying the ** world on their backs while the man gets to live.

Yeah, men would be more loyal. Since when a woman cheats it’s blasphemous and scars the man for life. Also I wouldn’t want the burden of raising another’s kids. I don’t want side kids. Ew. Single men with children are a dealbreaker. Damaged goods.

Wow. That must be **, sans burning in torment by demons but how scary.