Unsure

I have been trying to decide whether to stay with my boyfriend or not as his moods are so unbelievably up and down. He usually says he is doing one thing and then does another and he seems to be drawing into his own little world more and more.

I got upset and asked him what the h*** was going on. He dabbled in drugs a long time ago and i was worried he'd gotten back into the habit; even though i've no idea what the signs really are because i have never been around that type of environment.

I said i feel like you're withdrawing into yourself and i am at a loss on how to help you. For the first time in a long time he opened up and told me that sometimes he feels suicidal but the only reason he keeps going is because i'm all he has and he wants to be with me always.

Now i feel guilty for even contemplating leaving him. I wish i could make him feel happy again...

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  • He could be bipolar. Don't stay with him because he says he's suicidal or you're the only reason blah blah blah.. that's bullshit, selfish and totally unfair to you. Urge him to get help, see a therapist and get on meds if he is suffering from mental illness. And if it's drugs, the same thing. Also you're not responsible for his happiness, just as he's not responsible for yours. Sure, you both can make each other happy, but you must stand alone as your own person too. He needs to find that on his own. Codependency is a terrible thing in a relationship. You can waste years of your life, staying in doomed relationship because you don't think you deserve more, afraid to be alone, love yourself or think your saving someone. Really think about what you want and what you both want together as a couple for your futures. If you're not on the same page and willing to work at it, walk away.

  • Thank you for your concern, i appreciate your input. I have asked him to see someone and he said he will so i hope he keeps that promise.

    Our relationship was great, it's only been recently i haven't felt as connected. With a bit of work i hope it becomes great again...i guess i will invest a bit more time and see how it goes.

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