I have problems relaxing enough so that

I have problems relaxing enough so that I can o***** with my boyfriend. It's sad because he loves going down on me but I just have to tell him to stop and just penetrate me because it does nothing for me. His p**** is too big for me to be pleasured. We use lube, he goes down on me, I get really wet, and then we start having s** and it tears "down there." It's not an STD, I just can't relax enough to unclench the necessary muscles. The worst part is that I can o***** within 15 seconds from my vibrator. I feel so awkward just laying there breathing heavily while he is in the throes of o*****, then getting up and being like "Well! Welly Well Well."

I wish I could relax. I have reached o***** with other guys, and I've reached o***** with him a few times, but almost all the times I was imagining something else, like being degraded in some fashion. I've let him help me m********* and that helps a bit but it's always awkward. I wish that I could just be comfortable with my body and his and be able to have good s**.

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  • Read Cosmo, they have great tips. For example, close your eyes, so all of your focus will be on the feeling; breathe deep to increase blood flow to your "area"; think of how much it turns your man on to make you feel good

  • I have the same exact problem, even with the vibrator

  • You sound bothered by the fact that you think of something/someone else while you are with him. I think of other things too. Really degrading scenarios where I am getting spanked or humiliated. There is nothing wrong with it. I am sure your bf wont mind if it is what you need to relax. Try going without your vibrator for a while. I dont use them anymore since they were interfering with me acheiving orgasam with a real human being! good luck--

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