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I have problems relaxing enough so that
I have problems relaxing enough so that I can ** with my boyfriend. It's sad because he loves going down on me but I just have to tell him to stop and just penetrate me because it does nothing for me. His ** is too big for me to be pleasured. We use lube, he goes down on me, I get really wet, and then we start having ** and it tears "down there." It's not an STD, I just can't relax enough to unclench the necessary muscles. The worst part is that I can ** within 15 seconds from my **. I feel so awkward just laying there breathing heavily while he is in the throes of **, then getting up and being like "Well! Welly Well Well."
I wish I could relax. I have reached ** with other guys, and I've reached ** with him a few times, but almost all the times I was imagining something else, like being degraded in some fashion. I've let him help me ** and that helps a bit but it's always awkward. I wish that I could just be comfortable with my body and his and be able to have good **.
Read Cosmo, they have great tips. For example, close your eyes, so all of your focus will be on the feeling; breathe deep to increase blood flow to your "area"; think of how much it turns your man on to make you feel good
I have the same exact problem, even with the **
You sound bothered by the fact that you think of something/someone else while you are with him. I think of other things too. Really degrading scenarios where I am getting spanked or humiliated. There is nothing wrong with it. I am sure your bf wont mind if it is what you need to relax. Try going without your ** for a while. I dont use them anymore since they were interfering with me acheiving orgasam with a real human being! good luck--