I Try My Hardest, But You Won't Listen

My best friend is going through some stuff. She has just broken up with the same guy she's once before and has been really torn up by it. I'm the person she goes to to vent about anything and everything, and I try my hardest to give her the best advice I can. But after I give her tons of advice she starts crying saying, "I don't know what to do." And it just infuriates me that she acts like I didn't just give her all of this advice. It's like she's refusing to even take into consideration what I am telling her. It got to the point where I had to tell her that I wasn't the most qualified to help her with her relationship problems considering that I have never had a boyfriend. Then she proceeds to tell me, "I don't care if you don't know s*** about this, you're my best friend and you have to help me." Which is a bit ironic considering that she never helps me with my problems. And I don't ask for help much. Sometimes she accuses me for using her as an "emotional punching bag". I will admit that this may be true because sometimes I go through these really frightening stages of rage and anxiety, but I try to reign it in for her sake. I just don't know what to do. I love her but sometimes it just gets too frustrating. I try to tell her, but she just won't listen.

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  • Sounds like most of the stuff your friend is going through is drama brought on by herself. It's okay, we've all done it.. What your friend needs from you is to listen. You don't have to give advice, or agree with her actions. We all process things differently and in our own time. A lot of times you'll give great advice and your friend will just do what she wants to do. She just wants your support. So instead of feeling like you're being taken advantage of..do this. Tell her you are there for her and just want her to be happy. You don't always know what to say, but you'll always listen. But there is a point to where you have to just say stop, I can't listen anymore and at that point she needs to listen and respect your boundaries. And if she never helps you with your problems, tell her that she's going to need to see a therapist that you won't listen to her her anymore about this guy and then really begin to reevaluate the friendship. When it's one sided, it's not healthy or fun. Also get some help yourself for the rage and anxiety, you don't have to live like that. There is help out there for you. Remember friendship is give and take.

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