I fantasize constantly about watching

I fantasize constantly about watching my BF get it on with someone else. He's indulged me a few times (while I watched), everyone had fun. But recently he's told me he never wants to do it again. We've been together a decade and are married, no kids (but he wants them). I feel like he's rapidly getting more conservative sexually. It's driven me to arrange the fantasy with strangers on business trips (totally safe, again, I just watch), which I feel guilty about. But I get a ridiculous amount of pleasure out of that whole scenario. This is by far the best guy anyone could ask for---sexy, kind, good to me, always in a good mood. I don't want to leave him. But what do you do when you're faced with a lifetime of never addressing your wildest fantasy? Feedback welcome. Others dealing with this?

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  • Take up masturbation.

    Then you'll know what to do.

  • Sigh...I'm with you all. Only I'm the guy with the fantasies and a wife who is good in bed, but has no fantasies, or desires to 'explore'. I agree with the first person's comments. If you value the relationship so much (as I do), then you just have to live with the disappointment of the fantasies not coming true.

    But hey, if you're ever in my direction and need someone to help you with your fantasies...look me up. ;)

  • I am in a similar position - have the most perfect husband, however sexually his tastes are rather bland. It's hard to fore-go something that makes you feel so good, eventually the guilt of doing stuff behind his back may make you stop doing it. I try and focus on how my husband would feel if he found out, that usually stops me from misbehaving, however the self control isn't always there :( Good luck

  • If the fantasy might put your relationship with him in jeopardy, you have to ask yourself is this fantasy really worth throwing all you have away?

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