Left out

It was my sisters birthday, and I got off work the same time as my brother, and him and his family took my sisters out to lunch and to do fun things, and they didn't even bother to call /text/invite me. (I had no idea they were doing anything, I was just told dinner would be later that evening)
My other sister did a shout out for her birthday saying she was her best friend and role model. & she hasn't spoken to me in about 3 weeks. even then, its nothing ever past "hi".

I've been throwing my own birthday's since I was 16, Now I'm 30. Every year I become more depressed that someone wont take a hint and do something special for me, when I put so much time and effort into their special days...
I've mentioned it before, but never anything.

What did I do to deserve so much hate and neglect?

It really makes me hate myself.

I'll most likely be forgotten at 31.. what else is new.

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  • It sounds like there is more to the discord in your relationships with your siblings then just birthdays. Did you reach out to your sister and say Hey, what do you want to do for your birthday? Or did you leave it up to everyone else? Because it sounds like you wait for others to contact you. Do you actually put in efforts into these relationships? Because even though your siblings, you still need to work on the relationships. You can't just take them for granted. What do your friends do for your birthday? Not everyone is going to plan a surprise for you. Do you go the extra mile for all your friends as well? At some point you need put this petty stuff behind you and not limit your interaction with your siblings to only special occasions. Again, not sure what is truly happening..but it sort of seems you're not that close and you blame everyone else for why you're not included. You're an adult. No one is mind reader, if you feel left out than say something. I don't think it's wrong to expect an invitation to a siblings birthday party, but you know the dynamics better than anyone..and if that's not how it works. Than you need to speak up. Like your older sister..why don't you pick up the phone and talk to you. Ask her what's been going on..instead of waiting 3 weeks and wonder why she hasn't called.

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