I cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years

I cheated on my boyfriend of 3 years and Im so scared to tell him...BUt I have to. THis relationship is based on honesty,so ive gotta do it...right?
OH, who cares! I gotta go it anyway... I cant beleive I had s** with another guy. He wasnt even any good! Big d*** but no brains with it. Ugh! I hope my boyfriend forgives me, no matter how long it takes I will earn his trust back. Just one slip up...I mean, I guess I was getting desperate...We live apart in seperate states, so of course its hard...I just wish I was strong enough to have stayed true this whole time. NOw hes coming to visit in a few days and I have to tell him straight up what haopened. Please forgive me....

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  • As someone who was once in a long-distance relationship that has now turned into us living together, I can tell you that it is best to tell him...and if you confess, it affords him the opportunity to confess if he's done the same...don't you want to know? Or are you like the rest of these s**** above who only care when it happens to them, not when they do it to someone else? If you would want to know if he's been faithful, then he deserves to know if you have. These people telling you not to have never lived through this...I found out my girlfriend had cheated later on, and it gave me the chance to tell her that I had done the same. We were both hurt, but we understood eachother's pain and eachother's mistakes since we had done the same thing, around the same time in the relationship. If this relationship is so great then you should be able to understand when someone else makes a human mistake...this is nothing to be proud of, or to ever repeat, but in order for him to know that you will not do this again, he has to see some remorse. Trust me, if you don't tell, this WILL come out one way or another. Karma has an interesting way of presenting itself when you least expect it.
    My girlfriend cheated on me, and has lied to me about it for a long time. She doesn't know I found out about it, and believe me I'm trying to take the high road and see how it works out. Its no fun, at all, and I can't even say I really feel the same anymore. Say something about it, while you still can.
    My ex-boyfriend was cheating on me and I ended the relationship ASAP!! I hate a cheater!!!

  • My ex-boyfriend was cheating on me and I ended the relationship ASAP!! I hate a cheater!!!

  • My girlfriend cheated on me, and has lied to me about it for a long time. She doesn't know I found out about it, and believe me I'm trying to take the high road and see how it works out. Its no fun, at all, and I can't even say I really feel the same anymore.
    Say something about it, while you still can.

  • Its not really insecurities but problems with trust because hey, that person broke it.

  • ^^If my boyfriend cheated on me, and he felt guilty, and was planning on staying with me, I would rather not know. . .I would probably still stay with him anyways, but I would rather not deal with the insecurities, so yeah, what anyone don't know won't hurt em!!!

  • You need to tell him, if he leaves you it is your own fault anyways and it was not fitting for you to prolonge it. These posters are mostly morons thinking "what he doesnt know wont hurt him" but it could save him being with somebody who doesnt even make him happy.

  • He has a right to know, you have to realize that. 3-4 years from now, you tell him then, it won't ease things any, I can promise you. You will make him feel like you can have one set of rules, and he has to live by another. He might even find out and not tell you, but that starts the grudges building. You may even get to live forever without it ever being a big deal, but it is.

  • Next time film it and next time you see him say, "hey check out what I did since we last hung out" and put in the tape.

  • DO not tell him unless you want to break up!

  • Don't listen to the w***** above. Unless you think you caught an STD that you intend to pass do not tell. Why f*** up his world because you f***** up? If you really want to do what is right, sure tell him but then breakup with no questions asked. Say it and walk out. If he comes after you and wants to work it out fine, but don't whine and snivel hopeing things will be the same because they won't ever be if you tell.

  • As someone who was once in a long-distance relationship that has now turned into us living together, I can tell you that it is best to tell him...and if you confess, it affords him the opportunity to confess if he's done the same...don't you want to know? Or are you like the rest of these s**** above who only care when it happens to them, not when they do it to someone else?

    If you would want to know if he's been faithful, then he deserves to know if you have. These people telling you not to have never lived through this...I found out my girlfriend had cheated later on, and it gave me the chance to tell her that I had done the same. We were both hurt, but we understood eachother's pain and eachother's mistakes since we had done the same thing, around the same time in the relationship.

    If this relationship is so great then you should be able to understand when someone else makes a human mistake...this is nothing to be proud of, or to ever repeat, but in order for him to know that you will not do this again, he has to see some remorse. Trust me, if you don't tell, this WILL come out one way or another. Karma has an interesting way of presenting itself when you least expect it.

  • Why tell?? It was once, you are not married and you live a distance apart. If you were married it might be different, but not here with this case.

  • Your not married so don;t tell him. If you get married never tell him. Get married.

  • Just a thought... but if you DON'T tell him, and he finds out later on, he will probably figure there are other things you've hidden from him too, and you may never be able to convince him otherwise.

  • I think you should not tell him, if you plan on staying with him, and so long as you never do it again. It is a little selfish to hurt him like that, because the only reason for confessing to him is to relieve your own guilt, so stay quiet, and live with the guilt of what you've done, and try to make it up by being a good girlfriend from now on.

  • What you're going to do, if you really tell him, that takes real courage. If he breaks up with you, don't hate him, if he stays with you, well you'd better be understanding above and beyond whats normally acceptable.
    I'm not gonna say you're a bad person, you aren't. People get lonely. The only thing that could be bad is not telling him and having him find out accidentally, or telling him years later. Its his choice to stay in this relationship too ya know.
    I wish the best for you, however it goes.

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