He just can't stop

My younger brother who is 18 sleeps wiith older men for money. Even though my family is very rich and we absolutely don't need money, he does it anyway.

My parents have no clue he does this, he lies to them that he works and they always brag how he works hard and earns a lot of money. I don't know why i don't tell on him, i would feel really bad and guilty.

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  • When I was 18, I enjoyed the attention - including the sexual attention - of older men. My parents were right wing Christian, so of course I never told them. The men I was with were rich, and they were my sugar daddies, so in addition to sexual enjoyment, they gave me gifts and money. I loved them telling me that I was cute. I loved being cuddled by them. If your brother is attracted to older men and he enjoys the sexual aspect, and if it's fully consensual, then fine. Unless it's non-consensual, then he's enjoying his life as he wants to. If this is the case, don't tell on him. Have you asked if he enjoys having s** with older men? I think you should.

  • Don't tell on him. This is up to him whether or not he wants to tell your parents. I think that he likes his job and likes the easy money. A lot of escorts fall into this field for that reason. You have to respect his privacy and he'll cut you out of his life if you interfere. He seems determined and will continue this career path, so to speak, despite the stigma. Do an online research about being a gay male escort and maybe you'll understand the appeal. I hope he's careful. In my opinion, he'd sooner leave his family than leave his "job."

    I assume he's not a trust fund baby, which is why he's trying to make a lot of money the best way he knows how. Perhaps sit with him and talk to him about his long term plans. He might not have one being so young, but at least you might plant a seed about getting a college degree and subsequently a traditional career. If not, at least you tried.

  • It sounds like he's simply addicted to the twin thrills of uninhibited (and still somewhat socially-taboo) gay s** and prostitution. Yes, it's exciting, and yes, it's filled with health risks and life risks, so he's probably as attracted to the adrenaline rush as to the s** acts themselves. You are in an awkward place, between him (and his dangerous lifestyle) and your parents, but your parents aren't in jeopardy, while your brother is pure jeopardy. If you have any kind of relationship with him, I'd suggest you speak with him privately and strongly urge him to seek professional counselling about reining in the sexuality before he either catches something that penicillin can't kill, or gets killed by some lunatic who thinks that (a) paying him is the price for abusing him or (b) gay prostitutes deserve to die. The likelihood of those last two things may be somewhat small, but the more he does it, the more likely those things are to happen. Your brother is lucky to have someone who loves him as much as you do, but it needs to be said: loving someone carries with it responsibilities to that person. I'm afraid that you're going to have to act so that something horrible doesn't happen to your brother. I wish you the best.

  • If he really does it for money then you are not rich

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