I have a VERY fat friend that I realize I am embarrassed to be around sometimes. She is a great person but she has obviously not taken care of herself over the years. I try to give subtle hints about eating healthy and such and she heeds it somewhat. There have been things she has done that have been especially embarrassing. One time she complained online about "fun size" candy bars and how they are not fun because they are so small. I was tempted to reply and write that she should be happy they're small because she doesn't need to eat so many sweets. Another time we were driving and stopped at a gas station. She came back from the store with two giant snickers bars and offered me one (I hate candy bars). I just put down the one she gave me. She proceeded to scarf down her bar. After she saw that I wasn't eating mine, she asked if she could have it and I said sure, and she immediately scarfed that one down too. Every time we go somewhere I have to slow down and wait for her because she walks so slow because she is so large. She has to sit in the front seat of the car because she barely fits in the back. She has to have a table rather than a booth at restaurants because she can't fit in a booth. He stomach literally pushes the table towards me when she leans forward. On and on. I wish she would lose weight (not just the 20 or 30 pounds). I find myself subconsciously avoiding being seen with her around my other friends - sounds really bad, but I figured it out once I put some thought into my why my actions were a certain way (I don't think I was consciously doing it). If you are a large person, know that it not only affects you; it affects us too. We'll be there for you every step of the way, just lose the weight. You don't have to be model thin, just be healthy.