Living with my girlfriends son
So I have been living with my girlfriend and her son for 2 years now . She is 37 and I am 27 . Since the start of our relationship he had everything he wanted . He lived in the basement floor of our rented home with TV , XBOX , guitars and got everything he wanted Mc Donalds for dinner and is very spoilt and loved by his family . Upon moving into a new home things have changed now its new for all of us . He still has his room and a garage band room conversion .
The thing that bugs me is he is so smart but he is 18 now and has no passion or desire to do anything . He failed school because he didnt want to sit exams just do music ( a decision he was left the responsibilty of by his mother) Has had a job but left that .
He has done things like smash the house in fits of rage talk to his mother like s*** has no consideration of noise late at night when we are sleeping for work. He does not help around the house unless you tell him to . He doesnt shower unless you tell him to and wont eat unless you cook . This is all putting a strain on out relationship . He has been going through a phase of self harm because of girlfriends .
He's happy to sit on the computer play guitar go to band practice and attend his low end Uni course because now he has no qualification.
I love my girlfriend but this is putting strain on our relationship because I am living with some one who does nothing to help only when he wants something and now I am sick of it. Staying up late with TV on in play guitar having friends over . The bottom line is I was brought up in a house with rules for a reason to be abided by and they will follow on and now I understand why my parents did so. I was not perfect but i did what I was told .
Id love for him to get a job move out and f*** off because I want to have a relationship with his mother . He is a grown man and so am I this is our house and after all the problems he has put us through stealing destroying the house and not contributng I struggle to like him .
Please help am I being unfair I have no one to talk to no friends in this new country .