I can't stand up against my boss

My boss has been humiliating me recently and I don't know how to react against him. He is actually my pHD advisor and until a month or two ago everything was fine. He always said that I have great skills, that I'm totally able to do my work independently, that my progress has been wonderful in these last 4 years as his pHD student. Some time ago I told him about the idea of finishing my pHD sooner because I would have to move to another state if my husband got a job offer. He said that I was totally fine and that I had more than enough results to graduate easily. And now that my husband got the job offer and this situation is real, my boss is making my life become a h***... He totally changed all the good things that he said about me and now he is saying exactly the opposite. He says that I will have to do many things before I graduate and I may not be able to finish those tasks in time, that I don't know how to do things and that my results so far aren't enough. Today he asked me to do a lot of extra work and when I sent him an outline of the results, as I always did before, he just said that I have no idea of what I'm doing or I don't know how to communicate it. Of course I'm not a native speaker and I don't know many fancy words that some scientists use in their reports and proposals, but at least I can make a summary of the results of my research... Now I don't know if I will be able to move with my husband because of all this situation. I think my boss is making these obstacles to make me stay.... And I never expected that he would behave like this... And I don't know how I should react against this...

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  • Hmmmm. Sorry to become so poor a student all asudden. Clearly, I need to broach this with committee...

  • Be assertive and stand up for yourself. Call out the abuse and foolishness. You are an employee, not a slave. And get rid of him as an advisor and start actively looking for work elsewhere. Do this for yourself and because you deserve respect.

  • He's jealous or
    Maybe has a thing for you

  • It's definitely more of a personal matter than a professional one. Your boss clearly has an agenda. All the positive things that he said, is there anything that you have in writing? And is he the only one that can really approve your work or there has to be someone above him that may be able to sign off on it? Do you know everything that you're supposed to have completed to graduate? Or has this boss been making up his own rules to keep you there? You may want to talk to someone above him, this guy will probably not be straight up with you.

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