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That makes things a bit awkward
I am 38, Happily married with 3 kids, One of my very close friends is a lesbian, Has been for over 5 years off and on but the last 3 years just with girls and for over a year has been with the same girl, We have been friends since we were 3 and 10 years ago she had a bad divorce, I mean real bad, She caught him cheating and using drugs, She kicked him out and he stalked her, Attacked her in a parking lot and beat up one of her boyfriends.
A horrible thing happened and he died 7 years ago in a car accident but it lifted a huge weight off her shoulders, Thankfully there were no kids involved and although it was a horrible thing that happened it let her start living again, She started dating again but sadly never found that special someone, I am straight but don't judge her for her life choices, I am happy she has someone who makes her happy and truly wish them all the best.
My friend knows I don't have any interest in trying her life style and apart from maybe a few kisses in college have never led her to believe otherwise but recently we shared a hotel room for new years eve which we do every year to be close to the big party and not have to do the next day clean up, My husband got suckered into working new years eve being he works for "Essential services", the three of us decided to share a room which we have done in the past when it is convenient, It has never been an issue and I have honestly never been uncomfortable around either of them, They are both beautiful women and don't ever do anything when we share a room apart from affection any couple would share like kissing and they are both snugglers so there is that.
We all showered and got ready, I have never been uncomfortable being undressed in front of them, They have never said or done anything to make me uncomfortable aside from showering together which is fine but I totally know what's going on in there, but anyhow, We got ready, Had a few drinks in the room then spent the night dancing and partying all night, My husband actually was able to stop in at midnight and I got my midnight kiss but then he had to leave again, We all went back to the room around 3:30 and my friend passed out right away, Me and her girlfriend who I know quite well and am totally comfortable with sat and had a couple more drinks, We were both really drunk and she looked at me and said "I have always wanted to thank you for being so supportive of our relationship", Kind of caught me off guard but she continued on telling me how much it makes their lives better with me being one of her girlfriends best friends and that I have never once tried to sabotage their relationship, we talked about other friends and I learned a bit about some of my other friends who have done things which I don't agree with.
We talked for a bit and being drunk I may have asked a couple questions I normally would not have, Looking back now I can see how some of my questions may have been a bit misleading and she finally looked at me and said "If you ever think you want to...I just want you to know we would both be more than happy to have you join us", I almost spit my drink out and said "oh, no, no, no, its not like that", I was a bit shocked and she told me she thought I was beautiful, At least she told me she would never cheat on my friend but she also said that its not like they have never talked about it and I was like "Talked about what?", I learned more than I wanted to about what happens behind closed doors and she told me they have talked about me, She was quite open and I may have been a bit flattered, She told me she has taken the odd peek at me and continued on about how hot she and my friend think I am.
Then she said the thing that made me uncomfortable, I have never given a second thought to either of them seeing me undressed or anything, They have come in and used the sink while I was in the shower before, Not often but it has happened but then she looked at me, put her hand on my leg, Bit her bottom lip and said "you are the only one of our straight friends we ever fantasize about", I laughed and said "What?", She told me sometimes they talk dirty to each other about me and sometimes roleplay about me, She went into great detail which I won't get into but apparently my name gets called out once in a while on purpose, By both of them and she told me that they have discussed that if they ever brought another girl into the bedroom both of them agreed that they would be more than happy if it was me.
We eventually went to bed and thank god I was drunk or I would have never fallen asleep with my mind reeling as it was, No I am not interested, No it will never happen and now I am a little worried about the next time we are in a situation where we are changing in front of each other, I don't care about them seeing me naked I just don't want to inadvertently act awkwardly and don't want our relationship to change in anyway.
I wouldn't worry about it. If they haven't said anything to you when you aren't drunk then it means that they respect you. Lots of people find people attractive and it just means they think that those people look nice and appeal to them. I am proud that you didn't and aren't thinking about cheating on your husband.
You were both drunk, she put herself out there on a limb and probably feels worse about it than you do. Just put it behind you and write it off a a drunken confession.
She should have never told you any of their bedroom talk. She violated your friendship and now has made you feel awkward around your best friend who you have known since childhood.It has nothing to do with seeing you naked ,it might now be awkward just sitting and having a conversation with her knowing they think about you sexually. She should have never put you in that position.
Honestly I don't feel awkward about that part, Looking back I would be disappointed if they didn't find me attractive, I just don't get naked in front of men but its different somehow with a woman who wants to have ** with you, Not sure how I feel about being undressed in front of them yet.
Take her
If you read more than one part of my post you would have read that I am married, Straight and in no way interested in being with a girl.
Besides, that would be cheating.
Take it as a compliment. It is nice to be admired.
Still a bit awkward.
Try it, What's the worst that could happen, You like it?
The OP maybe the sort of person, who is loyal and respects her wedding vows!
Have you considered that?
Thank you.
Your welcome. There's some sick people on this website, that have no respect for the notion of being loyal in relationships.
Not everyone in a committed relationship, wants to cheat on their partners, if given the opportunity.
Some actually respect their relationships and wedding vows, I for one do and it appears you do too x
Cheating on one's partner may be for you, but it's not fir everyone. Regardless of the gender of the person you cheat with, when in a relationship, "It's still cheating!"