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Finding it hard to cope with special needs stepson
I am happy to have came across this thread as I have been so stressed out with my special needs stepson. To be honest I am starting to dislike him, I can't stand to hear him sometimes. He doesn't talk, he isn't potty trained and is a very picky eater and he acts completely helpless, he won't even feed himself. Before you judge me let me explain. I have a 2yr old and recently had a baby, He used to sometime stay with his grandparents but now lives with us full time. It is hard to take care of a newborn, a two year old and this 10yr old special needs kid. Who is in the habit of ** himself between 12 & 3am. I don't even get to spend time with my husband no more because he wants my husband to be in the bed with him sometimes all three of the kids ** or the baby is up screaming and I have no help, we ask his grandparents to keep him for a day they make up excuses sometimes when the newborn has a Dr appointment we have to drag all three of them with us and this freaking 10 year old boy will not sit down sometimes my hubby is ask to take him outside, we go to the store and even my 2yr old will be telling him to behave and he screams even more. I have been trying to take care of him the best I can but it's now weighing down on me to the point where I feel like leaving my husband. I try potty training him and it is like teaching the ** wall and to make it worst he has no manners. I sometimes blame how I feel on Postpartum stress but It I think it is unfair for me to be burdened with all the responsibility of this child when I have 2 smaller kids who need me and I can't take it anymore 😥😥😥😥
This is what condoms, birth control, and abortion might have helped with lol you know modern technology
^Troll.
^Easily triggered moron who shouldn't be reproducing.
Or maybe a permanent solution of getting steralised
I feel so sorry for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
I agree with below. It's even harder when it's not your own child. You want to love them and care for them the same as your own, but he's not...and that's just the way that is. Reach out and find the resources that might be able to take some pressure off you. Talk to your husband about how you're feeling - make sure he really hears you. Where is the mom? I know he's very demanding, and I know you're exhausted, but he needs you too. I am sorry it's so hard.
>>It's even harder when it's not your own child.
Yet there are so many so called parents who inflict their untrained or "special needs" children on the world and expect everyone to just ** it up.
There are programs and help out there for special needs children. He may not be able to do a lot of things, but you may be able to find an environment where he can thrive a bit more and have a place where he can go for most of the day. Or get a special needs therapist to come to your house and work with him daily. Not sure where you live, but there is support out there. Postpartum is serious, do not excuse it away. Tell your husband that you need help and get it. Venting is fine, you have a lot on your plate. But you do need to take care of yourself so you can care for everyone else.