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Still in love
I was verbally and emotionally abusive to my girlfriend of 5 years. I was out of control with anger and we were both drunk the last time we were together.
I feel so depressed over her still and it's been two years! I had this sickness of destroying everything good in my life. I can't move on cause I know she was the one. I miss her and can't forgive myself. Even if she deserved it, a man should not abuse a person. You walk away and speak when your both calm. I couldn't do that of course. Knowing that I crushed someone's spirit is killing me.
If you really are a man, you will make reparations for her sake as well as yours. Have no agenda other than granting both of you a measure of peace.
It will very likely be hard going. Too bad. A REAL man will ** it up and accept responsibility for his actions.
She will have her own anger, (possibly) apologies, all kinds of stuff. LISTEN to it. All of it.
99.999% of abusive people (men and women) don't have the maturity to apologize or make amends. If you're that exception, there is hope for you.
This comment isn't just for you. It's for all like you-- including Rob, who doesn't have the stones to do the same. Don't be a Rob, OP. Be an actual MAN.
My ex's name is Arthur, but ITA with you! He would never step up either. They never grow up, do they?