I'm scared my boyfriend is gay

We've been together for years and at first I did get that vibe from him. It wasnt until my friends started pointing it out that I started to notice the little things we did that made him seem that way. I know it's rude of me but i did ask him at one point and he denied it. I kind of dropped it since but the thought lingers sometimes. I really hope he would be honest with me if that ever were the case

Dec 27, 2018

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  • I'm friends with two men who were once married to women, had kids, house with white picket fence, etc. But they were gay, divorced their wives, and are now in good, stable relationships with male partners. It takes some people time to learn about themselves and be comfortable with it. You don't provide many details, but I'd say in general it's possible that your boyfriend is gay. If he is, there isn't a thing you can do about it. Just let it roll.

  • If he is, it's really not even about him being honest with you, it's him being honest with himself. And although you and your friends have pointed out things that may be stereotyped as gay, that doesn't necessarily mean your boyfriend is or isn't. There are definitely men and women who are never come out who are in relationships for years. I get that you may be worried that maybe if he is, and say you get married and have children and then comes out... There's no doubt that would be difficult. But you can't force him to come out. You've been in a relationship with this guy for years, and you love him as the person he is. And you have asked him and he has said no. At some point, you have to accept his answer or you may have to choose to move on. I sort of question these friends of yours and what their motives are. Do they want you two to break up? Idk.. this is a tough one.

  • There's a chance he might not have realized it. Don't force it though because if he doesn't feel it then don't worry about it. He might be curious about it.

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  • I know you don't want to believe it, but if YOU -- who knows him better than anyone -- can see it in him and his behavior, then it's probably true. I recommend hiring a private investigator and have him followed for awhile to see where he goes, and who he's with. And also check his finances (bank account, charge cards, etc.). If you find out things that are weird or can't be explained other than by homoinfidelity, then at least you'll know and can make better decisions about staying or going. And equally important, about whether or not to allow him to stick it in you (considering where it may have recently been), if he's even trying to do that anymore. I hope it's all just a misunderstanding, and that you still have a devoted heterohusband. All best.

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