I feel better admitting to myself,

I am a Bi sexual man. I feel so good saying that, but the problem is I have been married to my wife for 13 years. I have expressed sexual wants in the bedroom that are met with a brick wall. She doesn't like butt stuff. I have tried to talk with her but I am afraid of her reaction when I tell her I am Bi. We have had a lot of ups and downs and one of the biggest is when I told her I was an atheist. She is a theist. I don't want an open relationship or to bring in a 3rd party to our relationship. I am happy with her. I just want to be open and honest and I don't know how to do that.

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  • Hey! I'm really young (F17) but a fellow bisexual. I know I'm naive and marriage is not something I can understand at my age, but when it comes to coming out to somebody, as scary as it may be, it exposes who really loves you and who doesn't. Even if initial reactions aren't the best, those who are willing to learn and come to understand your sexuality are the ones who truly love you. If your wife is going to be a total s******* to you about your sexuality, you really might want to consider having a talk with her about respect and boundaries, as well as why your sexuality doesn't affect your love for her. But don't feel pressured to come out. The most important thing is that you do it when you feel ready and secure in yourself, because at the end of the day, this is about you. Wishing you all the best! :)

  • I am not gay or bi and for the life of me I can not understand why any man would want to suck or f*** another male. I would bet you wish you were straight male at least sometime in your life. I pray you find what you want and I say this as one who questions my faith everyday. If what the good book says, there is going to be a lot of us in h*** one day

  • I made the mistake of sharing feeling with my wife. She just thought I was sick and needed to be fixed. In my view it pushed us apart. She went cold sexually and distanced herself from me and we are now divorced. I feel if I had not shared we would still be together. I then got a girlfriend. It actually started with me chatting to her about how I felt and of course I talked about my ex wife. Then we got together but recently broke up. We had a coffee together to talk about why she broke it off and she mentioned knowing too much about how I felt toward the ex. So I think the message is find someone like a therapist to talk to about feelings and don't talk feeling with the girl friend or wife.

  • Sometimes saying something isn’t the best idea or outcome.
    If she’s not fun in bed maybe you should just move on to something you enjoy.
    I wouldn’t waste time not being happy just because she’s makin you

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