Long Distance

I HATE being in a long distance relationship. I love him with all my heart and more and we've lasted longer than people would thought. I know he doesn't cheat because he doesn't go out and we're always talking. People think i'm throwing my last year on him but I know that we will soon be able to be together and we can make it work. Sometimes the fighting gets to be too much but we've gotten through that phase. I'm just so paranoid of getting hurt...

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  • Hey, I hear you. I'm in a long-distance relationship too. Actually, if you are looking for support, there are a lot of groups on F-a-c-e-b-o-o-k for it. Honestly, it makes such a difference to hear and interact with people who are supportive because they GET it. I'd really suggest looking into it.

    That aside, I understand how you feel. As if the distance isn't enough, it doesn't help to have all your friends/family constantly critique the legitimacy of your relationship. It can make the situation incredibly lonely, especially during the low times (i.e. fighting, misunderstandings, or when one/both are going through rough times) because you really have to pull yourself together to keep going. In relationships that aren't long-distance, it's easy to move forward within the same day, but long-distance, these sort of things can last days, sometimes even weeks, and it adds the internal conflict of whether or not it is worth it. It can really F with your mind if you aren't careful.

    My advice, is try to focus on the good. Focus on WHY you are in the relationship in the first place. Focus on everything he does right. Focus on the positive of being in a long-distance relationship. From little things like not having to shave every day (lol) to big things like having plenty of time dedicated for your goals and yourself. Trust me, long distance offers so many benefits. It gives you so much freedom while teaching you so much about what it means to TRULY love someone. Without the l***, or superficiality. Love is about patience, compromise, communication, and TRUST -- all of which you learn to have when you are so committed to making it work with your partner. It also aids in helping you feel GRATEFUL for their presence and your time together.

    Hang in there. Long-distance isn't cut out for everyone, but if you are committed, keep your eyes on the bigger picture.

  • I solved the long distance with IRC and cybersex with my now wife. We worked through it. Let us type at each other every night we needed to connect to each other. Daily contact means a lot.

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