What should i do

I have know this girl for 2 years now. She is 20 and I'm 27. We have been close and we say we are best friends. And I don't really know if we are. I mean we can talk and say anything and we are comfortable with each other. So here's what I don't know what to do. I want a relationship with her and she doesn't....she says she doesn't want ruin a friendship with a relationship. I was in jail for 8 months and she was was there on visiting days putting money on my account. And she went back and forth about wanting to try a relationship but as soon as I get out she doesn't.....I have noticed little signs that maybe she does want a relationship but I don't know if I'm over thinking things. Any advice would be helpful.

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  • No means no

  • She's told you friends only so unfortunately it's friends only. She's just not that into you.

  • I had the exactly same situation with my high school best friend. I waited for almost 3 years then we dated but eventually broke up before 1 year of dating and now we are not friends anymore.

  • Sounds like you are close and she definitely cares about you. She made an effort to visit you in jail and put money in your account. That's very nice and generous of her. You've already made it known that you would like a relationship with her. She has already told you her answer. That's not to say it may not change over time. But the truth is, you can't force the issue with her or anyone, otherwise it just won't work. For now, back off and enjoy being friends with her and hanging out. Don't make big moves on her thinking it will lead to something, you may get shot down... One thing that may make her take a leap of faith, stop coming on to her or paying so much attention. When you like someone, you pay extra attention to them. And it's flattering. So maybe tone it down a bit. Hang out with your other friends, maybe date other girls. Keep yourself busy. She may find that she's interested because you're not as available as you have been. But if this friendship is really important to the both of you, stress to her that the friendship comes first. Time will tell.

  • Thank you....and I try not to push so much. But I tend to sometimes. And I am going to back off some and do my thing. And I tell her all the time I'm her friend no matter what. That I'm always here for her....I am the one she talks to when she has a problem. And yes time will tell but i hate waiting. I watch her get hurt over and over again and it hurts me to see that. Yes I am not perfect but I treat her nice, better then the other guys she's been with.

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