CLOSETED BI MARRIED CROSSDRESSER WANTS TO COME OUT

I am a 56 year old closeted BI married crossdresser. I have dressed since I was 11 years old. I had my first male lover at 13 and loved it. Today at work it is such a good day. I shaved my legs put on new black thigh high stockings, black mesh with black and red lace panties a matching bra, small breast forms, and light make up and I feel so fem. My dark shirt conceals the fact I am wearing a bra. My wife has no idea I am Bi or a CD, and I wish I could find a DOM or top in north central Ohio to be my lover. My other issue is I want to tell her but don't know what to say.