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My daughter still wears diapers
My 13 years old daughter still wears diapers. Yes you read that right. She's barely a teen and still wears diapers. Let's say her name is Coco (not her real name).
It started when she was 7 and her baby brother was born, let's call him Hazel (not his real name). My Coco was jealous that Hazel was getting more attention than she was. She acted out for awhile. She started throwing tantrums left and right. Whenever we asked to to do simple things, from getting dressed, to giving Hazel her first chores, she would say no, like a toddler would. She gave me and her father the whole toddler treatment. Luckily, she keeps it behaves when not at home. Thank goodness.
After a while of this behavior, we caught Coco wear her brother's diapers. I was shocked, but I could understand why. She also used his pacifiers too. Me and my husband thought that she could use both of them untill she calmed down and grew out of this attitude.
These days, Coco still sleeps with a nightlight. She sleeps with a character blanket we all know she's too old for. She gets along with her brother Hazel now. She still wears the diapers. Coco still uses the pacifiers. She mimicks her brother's attitude.
What's the deal? What's going on with her? We were too relaxed with her. It's clearly not about Hazel anymore. What should we do?
She's barely 13 and still wears diapers.
At first we only let her wear them at home. Then she wanted to wear them everywhere. We let her do that for a while. Then we decided she should stop doing that. Wearing diaper must have confused where bladder because now she pees herself without even realizing it. She sometimes poops unfortunately.
Well it may and I stress may be that she wants to wear them. They may simply bring her comfort and security in a way she probably would have a hard time explaining. Kinda like a older child who still has to have her stuffie to sleep ( looking at my 13 yo daughter). While it may be out of the “ ordinary “ wearing and even using diapers is not the worst thing she could do. What has she said she wants? If she wants to wear them then perhaps let her but make it clear aside from bed time she will be responsible for her own changes. I say except bed time because a sleepy kiddo has a hard time brushing their teeth much less something more complicated lol.
Okay. That sounds like a good plan. She's capable enough to do that. I'm her mom. I'll help if she struggling. Bed time is a hassle for her already. I'm not sure how her friends will react to her wearing diapers.
Odds are unless she tells them they won’t know for a while. What is her school situation? I know most have a nurse but I don’t know the individual school policy on students with diapers. I would be curious to know what says as far as wanting them goes.
Coco's in the 7th Grade. She wears the kind of gym shorts that don't show her diapers too much. She has a nurse. She has changed her many times before. She does it before and after lunch. The nurse says if she wants them more than needs them, then she has more control then she let's on, and that we should try to either have coco herself change them or re-potty-train her.