I have been with my fiance for almost 5

I have been with my fiance for almost 5 years, and I feel trapped. I know that I love him, but i dont think that i love him the right way, like i should love my fiance. I am planning on going to graduate school and Im very goal oriented, while he has no clue what he wants to do in his life. I feel as though our lives are going in two seperate directions, and there is nothing I can do to fix it. Ive told him how I feel and that I want to fix things, but he doesnt want to take the intiative to try. We've been together so long that I feel like no other guy would want me, and that I've already put so much time in, and Im scared to start over. He also told me that he's never trusted me, which is really what made me do a 180 and evaluate our relationship... I dont know if I should enter a marriage when I feel this way (I don't believe in divorce, so if we did get married it would be til either of us died). comments would be appreciated.

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  • My opinion about it. although I can't tell you what to do, is leave him. You are obviously not happy now, which means things are just going to get worse. Turst is the #1 factor in a relationship, if you don't have trust, honey you have nothing.
    My opinion about it. although I can't tell you what to do, is leave him. You are obviously not happy now, which means thing are just going to get worse. Trust is the #1 factor in a relationship, if you don't have trust, honey you have nothing.
    i hate to say it, but you shouldnt say you don't believe in divorce. Sometimes is a blessing. but if you fell this way now, DO NOT GET MARRIED. trust me, I'm divorced at age 26

  • I'm not one to tell you to not get married. What I can tell you is that if you're already having doubt, then you should really reconsider your marriage plans. A question that you should ask yourself is " Will he be able to trust you once you're married, and will he be able to be supportive once your married?" . Can you imagine yourself with him in 5-10-15 years from now just as things are now? People don't change.. I wish you plenty of luck..

  • My opinion about it. although I can't tell you what to do, is leave him. You are obviously not happy now, which means thing are just going to get worse. Trust is the #1 factor in a relationship, if you don't have trust, honey you have nothing.
    i hate to say it, but you shouldnt say you don't believe in divorce. Sometimes is a blessing. but if you fell this way now, DO NOT GET MARRIED. trust me, I'm divorced at age 26

  • i hate to say it, but you shouldnt say you don't believe in divorce. Sometimes is a blessing.

    but if you feel this way now, DO NOT GET MARRIED. trust me, I'm divorced at age 26

  • leave. dont get married; leave before. it will make problems much harder when youre finally legal as a couple.

  • Please move on go to graduate school and LIVE your life. He sounds insecure and is threatened by your ambition you will find someone who appreciates you and supports you. MOVE ON!!!

  • My opinion about it. although I can't tell you what to do, is leave him. You are obviously not happy now, which means things are just going to get worse. Turst is the #1 factor in a relationship, if you don't have trust, honey you have nothing.

  • wow i can tell you what to do but marriage is a huge commitment keep looking at your relationship and decide wether you want to spend your life with him, have an open mind about it, its never to late to find someone else

  • Dont be stupid, leave the guy. He's a total loser and your life will be h*** once u marry this dude. It's still better to start over and it's never too late.

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