help.

You can look online to find whether she is a vulnerable narcissist or else has Borderline Personality Disorder. These two are almost the same in what they do except that BPD will always apologize when they do the most horrific of things, and vulnerable narcissist will only apologize for the most horrific things sometimes, perhaps even changing whether a specific incident should be apologized for or not later on. The vulnerable narcissist will also bring up some minor insult from 5 years ago and claim that you should apologize for that before they apologize for what they did 30 minutes ago. I am not aware of BPDs do that. And lastly the vulnerable narcissist will expect you to never insult them etc. Where the BPD will accept it as an emotion which they also have emotion themselves. In other words the BPD will not "stonewall" for months just because you said one thing to them that is not happy. And if they really did do it then they will have the possibility to look into it after they are done being mad that you said it. A vulnerable narcissist will not do so unless you said it very nicely to begin with (and not necessarily then). Other then these things, the BPD and the vulnerable narcissist are mostly the same (as you are the Partner, but not at all the same as their actual thoughts). You should find out whether your girlfriend is one of these things. The right method for finding out is by reading good sources online. Not the bad sources who fill their articles with angry insults to them either.