Straight, Gay, or Bi?

I am a 23 year old male. I had an epiphany one day that I may be gay. The more I think about it, the more pieces fit together. I have never been sexually attracted to a man before but for some reason it feels right when I say I am gay. For now I am saying that I am bisexual. I love my girlfriend very much but am scared beyond belief that one day I could have a similar epiphany and want to break up with or divorce her, I still love her tremendously. Please give me strength.

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  • I think you might have some fears of commitment and you're using this 'sudden epiphany' about your sexuality as an excuse. I could be wrong of course, but my hunch is that you are attracted to women but you have conflicting feelings about your current relationship and are trying to find an 'out'. Is that possible?

  • I asked about the p*** and got the answer I expected I think. If you are uncomfortable with your feelings it could be two things. Either you are not gay, or you are and have issues about being taught that gay = bad/dirty.

    Personally, I have been in some bi-sexual encounters. Some of the lifestyles just do nothing for me. Don't like the bears, the leather bikers, limp wrists, or that sort of thing. I just like penises. A p**** fetish I guess.

    Hope you find some insight into your feelings.
    Best of luck!

  • This is the original author.

    Yeah, I've watched gay p*** a couple of times. I can get off to it but only if I think about it a lot. I got off it to it once and just felt dirty afterwards. Plus, while I recognize that some guys are attractive, I've never gotten a b**** instantly from looking at a guy, as I do with girls all the time.

    So what I am trying to say is that I get hard just by looking at girls, and without thinking about it (just as I always have). I can get hard for guys too, but I have to sit there and concentrate first and I feel pretty dirty afterwards.

  • Watch any gay p***?

  • If you're not sexually attracted to men, then you aren't gay. Maybe you are bi-curious. If you have a good relationship with a female and you enjoy the s**, I can't see how you'd "turn gay."

    You sound to me like you just don't have any close friends, maybe that's making your identity and self-actualization issues worse.

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