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I am a active LDS member. My husband joined the Church before going overseas bout 18 months ago. Since he hasbeen back he rfuses to go to church. He doesnt approve of me going to church. He gets angry with me when i stay up late reading scripture. I pray all the time that the Lord will give me strength to be an example to him and maybe he will want to live as God has commanded. I have had the same missionary in this area for 3 months and he comes over alot(with the other missionary) and talks with my family alot. He sat down with my husband and I a few wks ago and tried to talk about or different veiws. That didnt go so well. While sitting there about to cry because my husband doesnt care if he disappoints God, I was overwhelmed with the feeling that my husband is not my eternal partner and thats why it is so hard for him to accept my way of living. yesterday at church i had a meeting with my bishop and he told me that when it comes down to me having to choose between God and my husband to make sure I chose God.. So with all this I feel as if there will be something major in my marriage that is going to end in divorce.The past 3 months I have dreamed at least 3 times a wk about this one missionary, noting sexual but he is in there. I have become very found this guy. I never thought anything about the way we interact with one another but someone pointed out to me tha he likes me. He acts as if he wants me. Nothing I have noticed but I am startin to think that God has sent him here so that I can be with him.
Did you ever stop to consider that maybe, just maybe your husband's "mission" disillusioned him? You think about how much his "apostasy" hurts you, but have you ever actually sat down and just talked to him about what happened to him that made him hate lds? I don't know if you are aware of this but there is a form of PTSD called "Religious trauma disorder". Maybe he saw something or experienced something horrid that made him feel like the church betrayed him (like when a friend gets pulled over for a DUI and the cop is decent enough to let his wife and kids leave the scene so that they don't see him getting arrested and the first people to tell them and get them streaming tears down their little cheeks are the "brothers and sisters in Christ" at Sunday school!) Maybe your husband saw something similar to that. (Or worse!)
The only thing that I agree with you on is that your husband has no right to tell you that you can't practice your religion. Other than that, it appears that the best thing for your marriage is for the both of you to see a SECULAR marriage counselor and for you to come to terms with the fact that spiritual abuse is real as **! It goes on in every religion out there. Be supportive of him and who knows what he might be supportive of you.
all this over a supposed being of which there is not one itsy bitsy shred of proof
But she still has a right to believe in that "being". I am about 360 degrees away from what she believes and even I think she should have the right to practice her "faith"(and when I say 360 degrees away from her theology, I am not talking about simple Atheism. I mean as opposite as you can get from xtianity.)
You will never, ever become a God, no matter how hard you try. Maybe an angel, but that's about it.
Hypocrite member of the LDS church is what you are.
I also doubt your bishop gave you such advice.
You have not tried to work things out. Now you have fantasies about a man who's still on mission?
You have some real issues, sister.
Get some marriage counseling ASAP. LDS family services or another source.
If you really love your hubby, you better make sure you aren't the one with all the issues.
BTW Heavenly Father isn't quick to forgive those who cheat. Maybe you're get excommunicated.
I'm LDS too.
I hate to say this because I believe that any marriage can be worked out.. But if your husband really loved you he will atleast let you be who you want to be and let you believe what you want to believe in. He shouldn't get angry with you. Try to talk to him about that and compromise that you each do your own thing and nobody puts anybody down because of it. If he really loves you he will compromise to something. Sometimes by just being a friend and by loving someone despite differences, it can bring them into the church.
You should do a lot of praying and ask God to help you know what to do. Marriage isn't just some flimsy thing that can be broken by a divorce just because you have some problem. You need to pray and ask God if you shouldn't be with him anymore.. it sounds like you haven't been married more than 3 years so now would be the time to talk to eachother and see if you can solve your problems or to sincerily pray and talk with your bishop and ask for a blessing to help you KNOW if you should move on with your life to something better. I know how difficult it can be to be married to a non-LDS spouse. Just be sure you know for sure what God wants you to do before making any big decisions.
(And keep in mind I don't know you or your husband or your complete situation..)
Best of luck to you! You are a strong woman and you can do hard things. God is always there, he's got your back!
xo
If you truly love your husband, you need to be there for him. Make it very clear that you will not give up God just because he did and that you will no longer tolerate his anger towards you. I don't believe God sent you the other man to be there for you. It is a temptation from Satan to trip you and get you to do wrong.
obviously your not that religious because you would know god hates a divorcing and many faithful woman in the bible had unbelieving mates(and stayed with them), get your head out of your ** because you dont understand the scriptures your reading. God doesnt aprove of cheating on your mate or a man who looks at another mans wife Dumbass
Hm.
God also doesn't approve of treating others with rude words and feelings. You shouldn't judge others and you shouldn't be so cold. Nobody is perfect, you should know that... I guess you don't.
STFU and read the book. God hates all who have free will against him. We must all bow down and worship him. Follow the laws that he set. I stoned my own child to death for wanting to play his gameboy at church. Heathens will suffer the wrath in his name. You shall burn in agony for doubting what Jesus dies for... Do you read the works true sheep of Jesus? Just make it up as you need to fill in a blank. (I also thought my son had the gay jean so he would have not made the quota for heaven. LDS so how is his other wives dealing with the issues...???