Whoever said "all you need is love" is a liar. Whoever said money is evil spoke the truth. I love my husband. But he's been out of work so long,i think he gave up. I'd be okay with it if he wasn't so lazy. I know it's cliche,but after working long,stressful hours,i'm tired. I'd love to come home to a clean house and dinner,even takeout. Something! I try to pick up after him,but i can't keep up. He jokeingly says i'm lazy if im not in the mood to go somewhere,or do something. If he worked,or if i made tons of money i'd hire a cleaning crew or we'd share chores. I'm up very early and work till late. He sleeps most of the day. He's not mean,just very lazy. It's wearing me down,and when i tell him he just says to not worry about it or im overreacting. Im gonna burn myself out.

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  • He's not lazy, he's depressed and has given up. Each day he wakes up and wants to get going, but convinces himself that no matter haw hard he searches, or what he does, he will never get hired. The government did him (and you) no favors by extending his unemployment benefits. He's been out of work so long now he's forgotten how to get himself up and moving.

    Each morning you get up give him a list of chores for him to do. Start with simple things like cleaning the spare bedroom or organizing the hall closet. As he knocks those out expand into painting the living room or detailing the car.

    You should know pretty quickly if you can retrain him or not. If the answer is no, and you can't live with his rude behavior kick him to the curb.

  • Have an affair. It will make you feel as though you are a desirable woman again, create excitement in your life and serve your worthless husband right.

  • Then start being as messy as he is. Stop cleaning up after him because you are enabling his behavior.
    If he wants clean clothing, he can wash his own. He wants clean dishes, then he can wash them. Buy paper plates, plastc forks and knives and stash them where he doesn't know.
    If you can put all this effort into hoping he changes, then put it into the effort of showing him why it's bad, and why you are tired.
    If he watches TV all day, then come home and say you want to- but only your shows. If he's on the computer all day, then get on the computer and ignore him.

    Men don't see words, they see actions. Equate them together and they usually get the hint. They won't otherwise.

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