I work with a man. I think we both like each other. The problem is that he is married and his wife is pregnant.

When we first met, I did not like him. But I have gotten to know him and he is a nice guy. He talks about all kinds of things with me and is very open. However, he does not share our conversations with his wife.

I have tried to stay away from him, but somehow we always seem to find each other. He has never crossed the line nor have I.

We never talk about personal things, but rather general things about relationships, etc...

I never thought I would have liked him, but I guess I do. I don't want to break up his marriage, but I don't know how to stop this between us. I am afraid one day he will cross the line and I don't know that I will stop him.

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  • Why don't you just take the first step, do him a few times, see if you are a match, and take it from there?

  • Look, aside from the obvious wrongness of the situation and probable messiness for everyone involved (including an innocent unborn child!), what makes you sure he actually feels the same way you do? I've always found that guys who talk about relationships with me, whether in the abstract or not, have friend-zoned me. Not that it matters, you shouldn't go there anyways. If its difficult for you to get over your feeling for him because you're always working with him, ask to get transferred, or tell your boss that because of personal reasons, you don't want to work with him anymore.

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