Angry Green-eyed Monster

I hate my brother-in-law and his wife. It's my husband's brother. I'm only nice to them because I love my husband and I want to make him happy. But if I was not married to my husband, not only would I not be friends with those people but I would have punched them both the f*** out a long time ago.

Seven years ago, while they were dating, there was a lot of tension and bad blood between us. They gave me panic attacks. I hated them so much. Well, despite "getting over it" and "letting bygones be bygones" I only pretend to be nice to their faces when in reality, I hate their guts.

The BIL is a complete a******. He thinks he's better than us because he makes more money. His wife is a completely stereotypical blond ditz. She can't spell and doesn't know anything about the world.

They take 2 or 3 vacations a year. We all live in the Mid West and they have been to California several times as well as Las Vegas and several other destinations.

I have a s***** job with no benefits. I don't even get paid time off. I want to travel so badly and while I can't even afford to go camping, they trot off to wherever they f****** please, kids in tow.

When my husband and I were looking for a house to live in when we got married, we asked to buy a plot of land from his grandmother so we could build a house on it. She wouldn't let us. But when the BIL and the b**** got married, they asked to buy the same plot of land and she let them buy it! Now they live in a 4 bedroom house on the land *I* wanted while I'm stuck in a s***** rental house.

When my husband and I got married, my husband's other grandma refused to come to the wedding because "she doesn't really go to weddings." But when the BIL got married, who shows up? Yup, she was there.

They also have two sons who are the pride and joy of the entire extended family. My husband and I have decided to remain child-free. I am absolutely positive that his father resents us for not giving him grandchildren while the BIL looks down his nose at us because he has the golden children.

The wife got to have her tubes tied after the second child and here I am, not ever wanting children and all I can afford is condoms.

I try very hard to not be jealous of people with money. I have a job, food, a loving husband and a roof over my head. I really am thankful for all that I have. It could be a lot worse. But my BIL flaunts his money and s** trophies like you wouldn't believe.

I just hate them. I want to move away from them but I can't. I just hate them so much.

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  • I'm not sure when you left this post or if you even check this site anymore. But I want you to know that you are not alone. I am in a very similar situation and I know how bad it can feel. If you ever come back on here let me know and we can rant together, lol :)

  • Anonymous: I get the feeling you're an a******. Probably a republican too.

  • You try very hard to not be jealous? Really? Couldn't tell. They have this, I don't have this...wah wah wah.. Sorry, it's really hard to be sympathetic. The real issue is you and your "poor me" attitude. Maybe your husband's family plays favorites. Or maybe they didn't want to sell the land to you for below market value. Money may afford you certain luxuries, but it doesn't by happiness or taste. And the grass isn't always greener. If you don't like the situation you're in, then do something about it. Go back to school and get a degree to get a better job. Otherwise...truly be thankful for what you do have.

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