All Alone

I'm 25 years old. I've never had anyone special in my life, and have always been socially awkward.

I'm getting older, and things seem to be getting harder, not easier, when it comes to making friends and meeting women.

It's been three years since I've finished University, I don't think I've met anyone new since then, and all my friends from that time are gone to bigger and better things.

I spent all day alone, I'm too shy to meet anyone. I feel like my life will fall apart if I don't find a girl soon, but even just finding someone to be friends with seems impossible.

I don't know what to do. I tried dating sites, sent a bunch of messages but never got any responses back. I can't handle going to a bar by myself and there's no one to go with me. I really don't understand how people meet each other.

There just isn't much point to life when you don't have anyone around to spend it with.

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  • I find that it's always harder to find someone when you're straight-up looking. It's not about just finding a girlfriend, it's about finding the right person. You have to find yourself as a person, and accept who you are and be happy with that, instead of trying to find happiness through another person. Otherwise, if something were to happen, you'd be right back to where you were. Finding friends, however, seems like a good idea if you are usually feeling lonely. It's difficult to get past shyness. Maybe try facebooking, or other social networks, see who you tend to get along with, and just initiate hanging out like coffee or something. Eventually, you will become friends with their friends, and who knows, you might meet a girl out of this. I wish you the best of luck.

  • Many guys know how you feel, and have been there at some point in their lives. You could try taking some kind of self enrichment classes that women might also attend; e.g., a vegetarian cooking class of some kind or a craft like mug making. If you could be a bit adventurous about online dating, try sites for meeting women from the Philippines or Thailand, but be careful. Although many men have met wonderful women on these sites they later married, some have been scammed. As far as being socially awkward, which many people are, ladies at these sites are more likely to approach you than at traditional dating sites; thus reducing the awkwardness of trying to make moves.

    One other thought, some people appear to benefit from legitimate seminars or short courses on how to meet women. Guys who are good with the ladies, even guys who are not typically good looking, employ skills and courage that can be learned without having to be a user or play games with women. One simple tip could turn things around for you. Even a book might help. A book once enhanced my social skills and totally turned my life around. I believe the same could happen for you.

    Above all try not to lose hope. You are a young man with a whole life ahead of you and you will eventually find a good lady to share your life with. Again, many guys have been where you are and eventually found love and companionship. Good luck.

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