I hate my stepson w/ a passion! His

My 14 year old stepson sells drugs at school, and tells everybody all the awful stuff he does with no remorse. Husbands entire family coddles and spoils him and feels sorry for him because his Mom is a nightmare. He is suspended for 2 weeks for selling drugs and chugging vodka at school, yet he is still buying stuff online (most likely with the $ he made selling weed) going to all his extra curricular activities, talking to his ** friends and his nasty GF (who was the JR High bottom feeder of his friend group who also sells drugs, gets drunk and sends nudes to him). Instead of separating these 2 fools the Moms bend over backwards to get them together. He's a manipulative, lying little ** and my daughter is moving out to avoid him after he told people she sold him drugs, gave him a bottle of wine and invited him to her 20th birthday party. His family believe every lie that comes out of this kids mouth. He hits his Mom, has tried to hit his Dad. There is no real attempt to control his behavior and I have no doubt that the shrooms and weed are going to lead to harder drugs. I am getting a safety deposit box for my jewelry and a post office box to protect myself from the ** show that is coming. The fact that people think every kid just need chances and they will change have not met this monster. I used to think that way too. There is something deep down wrong with this remorseless, angry, vindictive, manipulative vicious kid and has been since he was 8. I don't know if I can take this much longer. It's causing depression and I am scared of what he will become. If anyone in his extended family tried at all to do something about his behavioral issues, it might help, but they won't admit there is a deep problem and try to help him. Maybe a residential behavioral facility would work but they are all too busy blaming his Mom to really see what is going on.

Here's my story with the youngest of two kids from my wife's previous union.

Ever since I arrived the ** was always trouble. Lazy ** dropped out of school at 16 and has been doing fuckall ever since except living on our dime, doing absolutely nothing but jacking up the grocery bill and watching stupid ** ** on YouTube. Lack of hygiene? Yep. Showers like once a week and never brushes his ** teeth. ** had a job for a while too. Didn't even had the spine to ** quit, he just stopped showing up for work and I had to deal with his boss. The ** ** is absolutely incapable of doing anything whatsoever. I have never seen someone so useless in my entire life. He is turning 18 next month and while I would love to just boot him the ** out of here I know that's not gonna happen. I ignore his existence completely. I have never experienced a loathing this strong for someone, ever. The sound of his ** voice ** me off and his presence makes the hair on my arms stand up in sheer disgust and loathing. And of course, everytime I try and address the issue with my wife, I am the bad guy. So I just keep my ** mouth shut and do my best to ignore his ** existence until he finally ** off. Of course this puts strain and causes tension with my wife. But it is what it is. I hate him and there's no changing that.

...wow it felt good getting that off my chest. This was cathartic to know I am not the only one.

Me too, my stepson is 10 and is so f###### fat he wears a size L/XL mens clothing. He will only eat chicken nuggets and sausages with a side of chocolate and candy. Each meal is a whole box of chicken nuggets, 4 sausages and candy bars and If he doesnt get what he wants the violent tantrums start to the point you will get hurt. Every day he is over its non stop screeching, screaming and yelling until 2am in the morning. Ive received noise complaints from the neighbours constantly threating council action. The only time he is quiet is when he is stuffing his fat mouth. He steals his sisters treats, food and eats them all, and punches them when they dont give him what he wants, doesnt shower and smells like a hobos a##. He breaks and destroys my posessions, has punched mutiple holes in my house. Sits on his fat obese ** playing fortnite all day and has more violent outbursts cause he has no friends and gets teased online. He bullies at school and bullies his own sisters. Ive been spat at, punched and kicked hard by this demon child. His mother is a ** feminist who hates males so she doesnt do anything for him and expects me to pick up the slack. I did not birth that evil creature. My partner has taken him to therapy, specialists etc etc but no help but just wasted thousands of dollars. The entitled little f### stain is demanding a ps5, a new PC and a VR headset. When we told him no he smashed MY pc in rage with a rolling pin when I was taking a shower, breaking the case. I told my partner to move out of my house so I dont have to see his foul smelling destructive entitled son. We are still together bit live in seperate houses. I wish he only had his two daughters who treat me like an actual person.

My situation is similar. I'm living with my partner and her 14-year-old son, SS. We met abroad, and she moved in with me in Miami a few years later. Initially, I thought SS was younger due to how she talked to him on the phone. He turned out to be 11, spoiled, and lazy. Fast forward to today, he's 14 and still the same—disinterested in chores, plays video games, and sleeps late, doesn't follow rules. We've been together 1.5 years, and I'm frustrated. My partner doesn't see the issue or says I shouldn't interfere in her son's upbringing. I took a 10-day break at my mother's to clear my head, which led to a family discussion where they both admitted faults and promised change. That only lasted a month, and now we're back to square one. She's now defending SS again and saying nobody's perfect. If we break up, they'll lose their residence permits and have to return to their home country. She's a nurse and can find a well-paying job, but I still feel bad about making them leave. If I stay, I'm sacrificing my happiness dealing with a passive partner and a lazy, antisocial child. I'm nearing a breaking point again.

I feel your pain. I broke up my engagement to the man of my dreams tonight because of his scrawny, **, entitled, ungrateful, manipulative little ** of a 15 year old son. Little ** wants to cuss and disrespect me and to my horror, his dad took up for him. ** them both. I don't tolerate that from my own, let alone his. I only regret not knocking his muscle wasted little wanna-be gamer boy, chair and all, over into the floor.

You sound like how I feel

What if stepson is an adult doesn’t even live with us? Husband just acts like he is a stranger when he comes to visit. He is my child not on drugs or anything. I think he is jealous of stepson n my relationship because I’m nice to him which in his mind seems like another male but it’s my child! Don’t think would act like that if a daughter... so sad

I feel your pain. My stepson is a NIGHTMARE. He is obese and demands junk food. He always smells terrible. He has flat out admitted to manipulating myself and husband to get what he wants. His behavior is terrible and he has ruined every holiday, birthday or trip we take because he is not the center of attention. I can’t stand him and the weekends he is here I just bide my time until he leaves again.

I totally understand, I am ashamed and disgusted by the adopted spawn , which is now trying to ruin us.....all because we said no . He has been running away , beating his girlfriend after having ** with her ( she wont press charges)
Stealing , suspected use and selling of drugs , assaulting myself and my wife
He manipulative and tells lies so often that he believes the lies he tells.
I don't love him anymore any feelings I had for him are gone , I despise him
There is so much more to this story so I don't want to hear ...he has unmet needs , he needs more love etc etc etc
What he needs is wall to wall therapy .
J

I'm right there with you. My stepson is a pathological liar. He ** himself on an almost daily basis. Steals, been caught with drugs, pipes, manipulative, constantly slips school or gets sent home... just an all around waste of resources. Mind you he is 14.
Driving me and my wife crazy yet she won't let into the idea that he is going to change. He has changed; for the worse, it hasn't gotten any better and it won't. We have done everything from setting boundries, giving him our undivided attention, giving him unearned trust after he lies.
I never believed people were born bad, but this kid had changed my mind. If it breaks the rules or goes against what is moral, he does it. I want him out, but I may have to make them all leave because my wife can't bring herself to do what needs to be done. I can't believe people will cause the entire family pain and stress over someone who belongs in a psych ward.

I totally feel your pain.

My 36 year old step son by marrige wonts my place

ALL THIS ** IS EVIL. HOW DO U AS A PARENT CALL A NINE OR SEVEN YEAR OLD A PIG OR A ** OR A **. WTF GUYS. MAYBE TAKE TIME AND BEAT YOUR KIDS INSTEAD OF LETTING THEM RULE YOUR LIFE. SOUNDS MORE LIKE ITS YOUR FAULT HE ACTS LIKE THAT. IF MY STEPDAD CALLED ME NAMES EVERY ** DAY STARTING AT SEVEN YEARS OLD TILL 18. ID HAVE ZERO GIVE A ** POINTS TOO. WHY CARE IF EVERYONE HATES YOU

Guess you have never been in her shoes? Didn’t think so. Go preach somewhere else…

Oh, I hear you. I don’t even want to call the child my stepson. He is 14 and he has absolutely no concept of empathy or compassion. He is spoiled rotten, never lifts a ** and when he’s asks to do chores he suddenly comes down with an “illness” and can’t help his Dad. He sits in his room and plays video games day in and day out. If you ask this child to come sit down for dinner or engage in conversation he had no clue what that entails. He has zero social skills. I tried to encourage him to do athletics but he has no desire to be committed to anything. This was much of his mother’s doing and unfortunately with this, the spoiling and the lack of accountability, she has essentially turned him into a monster. I absolutely can not stand him. He has a cruel mean streak that is abhorrent. He says that girls are “useless”. If he was my son I’d be absolutely embarrassed about who he is becoming. If a teacher calls out his behavior, it’s the teachers fault. I just cannot grasp this. His mother has never made him accountable for his poor attitude towards teachers or other students and she blamed THE TEACHERS and he watched this..... how do you think that has turned out. So, I’m am so happy that he is not my child and again, this kid that I’m stuck with would never be my son because I would’ve been stricter and much less lenient on his total lack of character YEARS ago.

Have any of you people tried not judging a little kid. It's a little kid, they do dumb **. If u hate ur own child ur just evil. Try helping someone with bipolar issues instead of calling them names and saying you hate them. Having your dad say he hates you doesn't make you a better person. Sit down with your ** kid and make him understand wtf is up. Your a man act like it.

Have you tried Sthu c#nt ?

Obviously you dont have kids

LMAO!! Spot on!! Yea, if they had kids/step-kids they would understand what an absolute ** nightmare kids can be and how they can and WILL ** up your life! If parents knew BEFORE they ever had children just what a pain in the ** that these children were going to be and what little "leaches" that they will grow into, 90% of people WOULD NEVER HAVE CHILDREN.

I’ve dodged two bullets 17 and 9 years ago. Abortion you beauty.

I had a wonderful, peaceful home life living alone after my own son set off to his father’s house when he was 15. For 4 years I was alone and loved it except for feeling lonely sometimes. Got online and met a guy with two sons and he lived far away so I didn’t know his sons well. Sold my beautiful home and quit my job to move into misery. Married the guy and:

Little did I know that he just wanted me to be here to clean up after them and make their house a home. The house I live in now has a yard where everyone parks in the “used to be grass” and they track in mud day in and day out. The carport is filled with junk and I run errand’s constantly for the younger stepson who is 12

He does nothing around the house, complains that I don’t wash his laundry often enough, scares my dog by yelling in his face. He scratches his ** and smells his fingers, takes pics of me sitting there and puts them on snap chat. He doesn’t eat what I cook unless it’s his mother’s recipes and still criticizes when it’s not done exactly her way. I’ve made 3 of her dishes for that little ** and he takes a bite and dumps it in the trash and says, “it isn’t like my mom’s so I’m not eating it. “

He leaves dishes in his room for weeks and gags when he has to bring them to the kitchen. One time he had a glass with dead maggots crusted to it. He plays video games most of the time but I’d rather him be in his room than hanging out with me and my husband anyway.

He smells, he doesn’t brush his teeth, he brags ALL THE TIME about how smart he is and how well liked he is. He brags about being good at every sport. He has thrown his dirty sweaty clothes in my face, he wipes his grimy fingers on my furniture or on his own clothes instead of using a napkin. He breaks or tears up whatever he can when he rages. I hate this kid and he takes up so much of my headspace. Right now I’m looking at 6 messes he made just last night. I
wish I’d never married. His father doesn’t make him lift a **.

My stepson is everything you all describe. He just turned 18. I knew when i met my husband from the way everyone in the family was treating him like a entitled brat he was going to be a thorn in the a** down the road. Well now he's 18 and here we are. A selfish little son of a b***h. Xbox playing won't even get up to use the bathroom and when he does he won't even wipe his nasty stinking a**. He's so lazy he barely bends his knees when he walks. It's sickening when we cook he expects someone to bring him his plate then he has the nerve to ask his dad to make his drink. What a no good excuse piece of total s***! And he acts like he has anxiety when we go in public so he doesn't have to walk far and to play his games in the car. And he doesn't work. He's playing the I'm stupid card. He's been told he has to work and contribute. I will not have laziness and my power used and my food eaten while I'm at work breaking my back. His dad sees his s***. I think he's hoping he can straighten him out. Not a chance. And i will not have him around my daughter with his bad habits. Hubby has to throw him in the shower almost and fuss. When he walks by all you can smell is pure t a**. He's disgusting and I could throw up in his face!

I totally understand! I wouldn't say that I "hate" my oldest stepson but I'm at the point where I just don't like him at at all & I don't want him in my house. My husband & I have been married for 4 years and his oldest son is now 19. He is on medication for ADHD & anxiety. He lies constantly & has stolen from us numerous times. He has also stolen gift cards from his little brother who is 7 years younger than him. All he does is sit in the house, watch tv & play Xbox. He doesn't drive. He has no job. He has no friends. We talked to his doctor who recommended a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist has now recommended that we get him evaluated by a neuropsychologist. It's just been a nightmare! I've tried so hard to be a good stepmom but I'm just at the end of my rope. His mother passed away several years ago & she was no help to begin with. As long as he was in his room & out of her hair then she didn't care. She just didn't want to be bothered. Unfortunately, my husband worked so much before we got together that he just did not realize just how bad the situation was with his son. Fortunately, my husband & I are on the same page when it comes to his son. I know he loves his son but I think he's at the point where he just doesn't know what to do. We can't exactly kick him out b/c he has no where to go but it's just a very stressful situation. There are some days I just have to pray for strength & patience to even be around him.

I'm in the same exact situation as you. Exactly to the t. Down to the xbox and no friends. Has your situation changed? I don't know what to do because he's about to move in with us. And I'm totally disgusted and against it. Lazy to the core ain't the word!

Hvae any of you thought that they don't want any friends and play Xbox in there room all day bc you ppl, who r supposed to love them unconditionally, give them stank eyes everytime you see them. Way to put a kid down dude

Um, until you're in a situation you can't control (such as having to live with a ** ** kid whose been spoiled rotten and has never had to take responsibility for their ** actions and it shows), because his bio-mom and her boyfriend can't handle their booze, then keep your mouth shut. Last I checked this was a forum for stepparents to vent about there step-sons who are less than likable human-beings... then again, you just may have been an unlikable step child yourself, so...

You must be a Democrat

We ALL hope that you have step-kids one day. ONLY then will you see that you have ZERO ** idea what you are talking about. GOOD LUCK....👍😂

Has it ever occurred to you that you should shut the ** up. This sounds like all the cop out ** I hear from my stepson constantly. Oh...woe as me...I’m so depressed...and then a few minutes later I hear him laughing it up playing online with his ** friends.

Don't waste your time with the neuropsychologist. Same song and dance here. The whole thing is he just wants to play games and be served. I'm going thru the same thing with my stepson. Doctor recommended one so we took him. As I suspected not a thing was wrong. Just the neuro feasted on our insurance. It's all a game to them. Play sick or depressed for pity. Poor pitiful me. I'm not falling for it and I hope you get thru it too. They're sick in the head alright. It's called being lazy and jealous of other siblings😒😤

I have the exact same thing! Lazy a** 17 Y/o who does not do school work, doesn't do homework, has no job, contributes NOTHING around the house, Doesn't drive. He rarely ever even gets dressed or combs his big stupid clown hair. have brought this up to his mom several times, to the tune of, I know, we'll fix it, blah blah blah. As soon as she bring up being responsible, all of the sudden the little dip s*** is sooo depressed. Not too depressed to paly video games all night and day. Luckily he turn 18 in September, then he's outta here! I'll even pay for a plane ticket to his dad's on the east coast, but truthfully I don't care where his lazy a** goes. If I didn't have a Son with my wife, i'd have left years ago.

I think i hate my 9 year old step son...He is annoying as f*** and is completely spoiled rotten...The kid is so f***ing lazy that he'll ask his mother to hand him something that is literally 1 foot away from him...When he direspects me i cant even tell him off cause then his mother gets in my ** but then when i back off or stay shut when he disrespects her, i get yelled at for just sitting there...She throws his dad (that wants nothing to do with him, doesnt even call or facebook him, and the little s**t still loves him and misses him) in his face whenever he ** her off. Then somehow i get thrown in the mix of the best/worse dad argument as if i even give two s**ts about the guy.I would love to be more respected from the both of them and not feel like I'm solely being used for some good d**k and video game advice

Hey, is that still going on? my wife has a 14yo we just bought another house for. I will end up really hurting him if I have to spend 1 more hour with him in the room. it's the lying mostly. eats the extra donut on the counter... did you eat that ? No.. but theres no one else here and your fingers are sticky.... I don't know what you're talking about. .. I hate him so much and resent that we have to have 2 homes now just so that my wife can still see him sometimes.

If I were smart, I would have left. My husbands spawn is ** horrible and a future welfare recipient. He’s 11, only cares about video games, when I take them away from him for ** report cards or I’m fed up with the fact this kid hasn’t and won’t help out around the house with anything his ** dad gives them back and is so mentally abusive to me afterwards. I’m so ** done. And to top it off this ** kid now lives with us during the week and his dad works on the road. This is ** and I’m just kicking myself for sticking around.

Lol I too hate my stepson. Just counting down the days the little ** grows up. Yeah, they are kids. But some kids are ** annoying and manipulating. I love my bio kids more than anything. So yes, I’m fit to parent but my stepson is already being phased out. In a few years he will be solely at his moms.

Totally feel your pain. My 16 year old stepson is a lying and manipulating son of a **. I'm sure he does things to purposely antagonize me and when I bring it up to my husband, he just does not see it. I just wish she would leave us alone and go live with his mother but at the moment that's not possible. I truly despise him at times and now I feel it is putting a strain on our marriage. I have 2 of my own children who have turned out to be respectful, hard working, living and quite successful in life. My step son is idle, lazy and literally has nil common sense. His hygiene leaves alot to be desired as well. This makes the struggle even more real because that gives me so much anxiety ... I am OCD. I worry he'll break out marriage

The kid is NINE. it is a CHILD. what do you expect from him guy. Tf.

Teach your stupid offspring some manners then

Please don't be a parent you're not fit for it.

Maybe you don't have good ** but good money? ** that situation. I would dip.

I also hate my fiances 9 year old. He's the biggest ** I've ever met in my life. All he does is play ** fortnite and cry. The only thing that gets him to do anything is threatening to take away his Xbox. He is incapable of doing anything himself because he is a total ** moron. He can't even ride a bike because he doesn't give a flying ** about anything other than playing video games. He'll try to be nice but only when he wants something then it's right back to his normal faggotry. He's never going to leave the home. The little ** can't even tie his own shoes. He's such a little ** that I'm worried how our unborn child is going to turn out. **!

I feel yah, 100%. My step son is garbage as well. My husband won’t discipline him either because, you , know, thinks his kid is some type of God like entity. I’m already one foot out the door. I doubt there’s any other woman out there that would tolerate tHe ** we have to deal with constantly. I’m ** just done.

Oh honey, good luck. I kind of wish I could still say fiancé and run but I married the man with the ** kid and now I’m stuck. They only get bigger and meaner and more manipulative. Just prepare yourself. I did the whole Pollyanna I’m going to just show unconditional love thing but honey, these little ** will try and destroy you. Now, I just do my own thing, I basically ignore him and give attention when it’s absolutely necessary. Don’t waste your time like I did, just do you and your children. That kid is the problem of two people and none of them are you.

Same road taken.No appreciation whatsoever.I have kept on giving and trying.Marriage is on Rocky ground because I've had enough.Lazy and selfish,yet I'm the ** for putting my foot down.Impossible situation.

Don't blame you. I finally bailed on my ex after putting up with it for 6 years and my life improved overnight. Now met someone new (with no step-brats) and wish I had left years earlier than I did! I would warn anyone from dating/marrying someone with kids. Even if the kid is ok, there will always be the ex hanging around in the picture, manipulating things, making demands, gossiping about you. It isn't worth the stress. Have some self respect and don't be the back up plan to another couple's ** ups!

His rotten kid finally turns 18 tomorrow!!!! I'm getting drunk to celebrate. I'm so happy I never have to be forced to deal with his lazy ** again! And if he shows up at my house, I can call the police to have him taken away for trespassing! Good Riddance!!!

You are sooooooooooooo lucky!!!!!!!

Most people with this mentality are in for a rude awakening. I’m sorry, but you don’t get rid of them at 18. The misery persists for many years to come. I am literally ready to quit my 100k job, let my house go into foreclosure, and give a big adios ** to my wife and 22 year old stepson. While he is doing better than a lot of the others in this forum (college, job, and driving) he is still a giant lazy piece of **. His mom does all his chores for him constantly. He gets to keep all his money because his mom feels bad to charge him rent. He complains every day about how his life ** then goes to his room and laughs it up with his ** online friends. He gladly eats our food and dinners every night and never offers to help clean or cook us something. I could go on for days...I’m sure if your reading this then you get the picture.