I'm so torn. I love my boyfriend, I really do. But I also hate him for what he has been doing, what we have been doing. We've had s**, a lot. But we're Christians, and we are living a lie. We wanted to save it for marriage, and I wanted to save my virginity for my husband, but now it is gone. I feel empty, broken. And we've been lying to everyone who tries to keep us accountable, plus I still wear a purity ring. It feels like a big weight on my finger that reminds me of our mistakes every time I look at it. I know many people will say, "So what? He's your boyfriend, you can have s**." But it really isn't right, and its killing me inside. I don't know if I can do this for much longer. I want to end it, but I can't break up with him. I just don't know how to feel whole again.

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  • Recommit yourself to the Lord and then go marry that boy. If he is the love of your life he can stop and wait until you get married. I went through the same thing with my girlfriend and we recommited and now we have been married for 25 years. People told us we were too young to get married (18 - 21) but it was fun growing up with my best friend and lover. As long as you are looking towards the Lord and accept his forgiveness together, it will work. I will pray for you.

  • Thank you so much for those encouraging words! That is exactly what we are going to do, and we are really trying to focus on the Lord and build our relationship on Him. Thank you for your prayers :) any advice for avoiding sexual temptation?

  • Don't put yourself in a situation were you can fall into temptation. Don't be together alone is a good place to start. If you commit to that then the opportunity will go way down. No touching, no kissing, no hugging, it sucks but it all started with a kiss:). You will always have desire, God wired that into you and I hope that it never stops. You can do it. It may seem like forever but before you know it your kids will be leaving for college and you will know that you gave them a good start by doing the right thing now.

  • if you wanna feel whole then don't give up on the s**. give up on the religion. it's pointless & you'll be happier without it.

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