Don't Get Wet Anymore

I have a bf who I am super, super attracted to. When we first started dating, I could get really wet from just kissing for a few minutes. Then it was mild wetness after the first round of s**, and by the third I'd be soaking the sheets. You know how it is the first few months of dating someone (shrugs). Before we dated, I was never into oral s**. He was angered by my admission that I'd prefer we skip that part and demanded I let him try to give me an o***** orally. This was always one of his "talents" and he couldn't deal with the notion of never being able to eat his girlfriend out.

Well holy s*** did that work. All those years I thought I didn't like men going down on me, but it turned out I'd just never had a man do it right. After about 6-9 months into our relationship, I gradually developed issues with natural lubrication. I can't get wet AT ALL anymore without him going down on me, and even then I don't get THAT wet, we still need to use lube. I don't know what happened. I don't know if this is physiological (I do have poor circulation and cold hands & feet so I wouldn't be surprised if that was the reason), or if it's psychological and he just changed my arousal triggers. Or if - and this is the one that really freaks me out - I just don't get that OMG F*** ME NOW hot for a guy to the point where my p**** is soaking from only making out after the novelty of a new relationship wears off. This is the longest relationship I've been in, before this I usually only dated men for about 3 months at a time. I guess it could also be hormonal. I was on the pill for a few months (the pill always made me dryer), but that was almost a year ago now.

I don't know how I can fix it if I don't know what's causing it. I am afraid he will think it's him. Nothing could be further from the truth! I still LOVE S**, and I want him all the time! If anything I have the higher s** drive of the two of us. I'm also worried that if this DOES make him feel insecure about my desire for him and his sexual prowess, that it will take an eventual toll on his desire for s** with ME. I just don't know what to do about this:(

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  • Me either at 48 and a woman, although I am in the moment with men and turned on. I do take medication that dries me up for my bladder, so LUBE is my best friend these days. Whatever it takes, I GET THERE!

  • If you're worried he will get insecure and think your lack of wetness is about him, then why not ask him what he thinks about all this? Tell him you don't know what the problem is either, you still desire him just as much. Everybody evolves in relationships and you to have keep people you care about in the loop as best you can. Even if you don't have any answers either about the problem at hand.

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