im seperated from my husband its been

im seperated from my husband its been 3yrs. were both in new relationships, but i dont love my guy, i still love my husband, but i hate him at the same time, i tried so many times working it out getting back together but he's a heartless b**** that's not trying, i want him more then n e thing else but at the same time i hate him cause he takes care of his girlfriend daughter and never comes to see his own two that he has by me, i hate his gf cause she's ignorant some times i wish i had the guts to kill her just to make his life misserable like he has made mine, he also had a baby with her, he does every thing for that child, i get angry cause when we do talk he throws that in my face, his gf is a dirty fat jobless smoke head, and im a sexy b**** that men desire, i get so angry cause he perfer her then me, for a long time i thought he was trying to get under my skin and prove a point by using any female, but its been 3yrs, my mind is going crazy cause i love and want this man and dont know what to do~ any good advice?

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  • Make sure he's at least providing financial support for his children, and if he isn't, take is ass to court. He's clearly not deserving of your lingering affection, and the reality is you may have to fact the fact that you may be a single mother. As for your current boyfriend, the poor guy is clearly being used. Let him go find someone who truly wants to be with him. Whether you want his companionship or not, this guy deserves better, to be loved, so let him go find that.
    3 years is a considerable amount of time. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Because you think this other girl is fat and ugly doesn't mean he thinks the same way. And obviously he doesn't, but my advice to you would be to take a look back at your relationship and see where things went wrong. I'm sure he didn't leave you soley because she looks better than you and if she doesn't look better than you then it definetly had to be another reason. We all find it so easy to blame the other person when a relationship goes bed, especially a marriage. While i know he's not guiltless in this situation niether are you. You may have had this conversation already with your husbad, but if not ask him what caused him to leave you. Or if you already know then start trying to work on those things and change them. Once he notices that you are different he may want to come back to you. But there is such a thing as being in love with the wrong person, and you may not get back with your husband. People loose so many relationships because they do the same thing to the next guy and then blame it on the guys. But most of the time it's them. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying it's you because I don't know any of what went on that led up to your breakup. But speaking from experience I do know that no party is free of guilt and there are somethings you can learn that will help your next relationship, not matter who it's with. Wish you well SiteShrink

  • 3 years is a considerable amount of time. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Because you think this other girl is fat and ugly doesn't mean that he thinks the same way. And obviously he doesn't, but my advice to you would be to take a look back at your relationship and see where things went wrong. I'm sure he didn't leave you soley because she looks better than you and if she doesn't look better than you then it definetly had to be another reason. We all find it so easy to blame the other person when a relationship goes bad, especially a marriage. While i know he's not guiltless in this situation niether are you. You may have had this conversation already with your husbad, but if not ask him what caused him to leave you. Or if you already know then start trying to work on those things and change them. Once he notices that you are different he may want to come back to you. But there is a such thing as being in love with the wrong person, and you may not get back with your husband. But still work on these things for the next relationship. People loose so many relationships because they do the same thing to the next guy and then blame it on the guys. But most of the time it's them. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying it's you because I don't know any of what went on that led up to your breakup. But speaking from experience I do know that no party if free of guilt and there are somethings you can learn that will help your next relationship, no matter who it's with. Wish you well

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  • u know ur right, with my guy, i tried so many times to get him to leave me, i tried breaking up with him, that didn't get anywere i tried being verbally abusive, i put his ego down, but for some reason he wont leave me, i even told him that i still love and desire my husband, i guess he thinks im a joke or sum thin but i try to be as blunt as could be. and with my husband yeah i get child support, but it still aint shyt u know, my kids still loves and want his ass,and i do too even tho i know hes not worth thinking of, i just can't seem to get him out my system....

  • Make sure he's at least providing financial support for his children, and if he isn't, take is ass to court. He's clearly not deserving of your lingering affection, and the reality is you may have to face the fact that you will remain a single mother. As for your current boyfriend, the poor guy is clearly being used. Let him go to find someone who truly wants to be with him. Whether you want companionship or not, this guy deserves better, to be loved, so let him go find that.

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