Love doesnt always equal pleasure

I love my fiancé with all my heart and want to spend the rest of my life but I've never climaxed during s** and always fake o****** when he goes down on me or fingers me because I don't feel I'm worth the effort he'd have to put in. I love and want him so much why do I have such a mental block about him pleasuring me? I'm a loser.

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  • Some women just can't o***** easily. Talk to him about it. What will make your s** life better is communication. If you have something else on your mind during s**, it makes it a lot more difficult to get to that point. Just learn to enjoy the ride. Also, realize that achieving o***** isn't the only thing that makes s** pleasurable, at least for us women. It's about the emotional connection that you share with your partner during that time.

    Don't fake, though. That's just going to hurt his self-esteem in the long-run when he finds out you've been faking this entire time. If you don't o*****, shrug it off, tell him it's not his fault, and explain that it's not a big deal if you don't. I'm sure it'll make him want to work harder to get you to climax.

  • It sounds like you need to be comfortable in your skin first. Some women have a hard time climaxing through penetrative intercourse - there's nothing wrong with you. As for your hang up around oral, it isn't a question of it being "worth the effort" - he's doing it because he *wants to* get you off. You're kind of cheating him if you deprive him of the chance to bring you to o*****; it's what he's there to do.

  • It's his problem not yours. If you will have s** with him, tell him that none orgams are taken place, so tell him to be better.

  • LOL I doubt you're the only one out there that has this problem. I have it too. I'm a guy and I think of a female friend I have every time I have s** with my wife - I have done for the past few years. I don't want a relationship with my female friend and I love my wife but I'm sexually attracted to my female friend. Don't let it worry you too much.

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