Advice..

Okay so to start off, I've been hooking up with this guy for about 9 months now, no strings attached. We were actually really good friends before, but we both just needed pretty much a booty call but didn't want baggage, (feelings, drama, etc.) So we both agreed to be there for each other pretty much whenever one of us needs it. We've continued this for about roughly nine months. As those nine months went on our friendship pretty much went out the window. I don't have feelings for him, i just miss the way things use to be. Us just hanging out and talking, txting, and phone calls. Use to I was the one he turned to when he had a problem in life, now I never know what's going on with him. I feel so distant. We were pretty close, I always got a phone call or text at least once a day. And he always wanted to hangout any free time he had. Now I never get a phone call, or a text just to see whats up. Its just for s**. Which is completely fine with me, cause I definately want it. But I do miss all the other things as well. And I know blah blah, s** ruins friendship etc. But the advice i'm looking for is maybe a guys input. I mean I'd understand why he is the way he is being if I were being stage 5 clinger or weird about stuff but I'm not, that's why this whole thing works for us, we're both broken individuals and very alike because we've both be broke in the past and just can't seem to be fixed. So I know it's not something I'm doing. I just need that friend back with out saying it too him

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  • Sorry but as a guy, I'm telling you that you have to tell him or you'll stay in this predicament forever. We're NOT mind readers. It also sounds to me like there are some feelings for him. Once the "friend zone" turns sexually active it seems most guys (myself included) look at the situation as nothing more as a booty call, so any way you look at it you're going to have to either make the first move and let him know what's up, or just live with the occasional booty calls.

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