Do i event want to know?

I'm 22, engaged, and pregnant. Sounds great, right?
It would be if I knew for sure if the father of my baby was my fiance. Not the man who raped me during a work trip.
My fiance knows all about the assault, and has been very supportive and has promised to stand by me no matter what. Still, I don't know if he could really handle raising a child that isn't his, if that's the case. We plan to have a paternity test done as soon as_ the baby is born and I'm scared to find out who the father is. Part of me doesn't want to find out at all, and just hope for the best.
This is the most difficult time of my life when it should be the happiest...

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  • Sorry that a****** raped you. That's difficult on everyone. Don't hate your fiance if he leaves if the baby isn't his. It's just natural instinct to need to be the one that breeds your girl.

  • The added stress can't be healthy for you. Concentrate on the positives in your life.. this man who loves you and loves this child already unconditionally. Sometimes the most unfortunate of circumstances lead you to the best things in your life. Regardless if you choose to conduct a DNA test; you should consider speaking with someone about the rape. It wasn't your fault. Rainn.org is a good place to start.

  • If it were me, I'd rather raise the child as my own, than let the other man have a foothold in our lives via the child. It's better if your attacker never knows that he may have sired a child.

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