Nice guy who lacks confidence

I sometimes feel so useless with love. With so many girls, I have tried talking with the in the hope one would lead to greater things but it never has. I’ve always kinda been the nice guy who just holds back in fear and panic of freaking on of my female friends out for asking her “do you want to go out sometime.” When we first start talking, things are fine; but as time goes by, I begin to get quieter. Talking has never been my strong point and its not like I don’t try. I give everything I can to keep conversing, absolutely. But so often, they just see me as the nice guy who can only be a friend. How can that be changed? I feel so helpless. Can a girl, guy, or anyone help me. Your help and advice would go a long way.

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  • Girls won't bite, unless you want us too. And most of the time, we are just as nervous and fearful of rejection as you are. How to change? You just have to put yourself out there and take a chance. And that means becoming a little uncomfortable and vulnerable. On the one hand, you want to be comfortable and on the other hand put yourself in situations may bring you out your shell. Hanging with your friends is great. And often a friendship is a great first step to a relationship. So you never know, unless you take a chance. And when you find a girl you like and muster up the courage to ask her out. The commenter who suggested complimenting and flirting is spot on. This should be fun. Sure, the worse thing that will happen is that she says no. Just remember, there are several others that would jump at the chance. You have to start somewhere to build your confidence. And have to talk so you can let girls get to know you and that means letting your guard down. If you're old enough, try online dating. That way you're starting off on a platform where people are looking for relationships and not necessarily friendships.

  • Do you really not know how to compliment, flatter and flirt to let a woman know you're interested in her?

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