Been in the same relationship for 12 years

I LOVE MY EX I DO. I HAVE BEEN WITH HIM FOR 12 YEARS. WE HAVE A DAUGHTER TOGETHER AND I WANT TOO WALK AWAY BECAUSE HE DON'T WANNA COMMIT AND HE DON'T WANNA GET MARRIED. I LOVE HIM BUT I AM TIRED. WHAT SHOULD I DO....WALK AWAY OR STAY?

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  • He is an complete idiot for not wanting to marry you , he has no intelligence or respect for you , nor your children , He has no maturity , regardless whom he is , leave this idiot and find a real man , they are many men whom will love you and marry you forever . He is a complete idiot

  • If he's your ex..how are you still with him? If he is your ex, isn't the answer clear? He is telling you he doesn't want to commit or get married. Listen to what he's saying. Move on. Walk away, he won't change his mind, he hasn't. You've already been with this guy for 12 years! You will waste even more years of your life with him if you don't move forward with what you want in your life. You have a daughter, don't teach her that it's okay to settle for some guy who doesn't respect you enough to want to commit to you. He may be a great father to her, but you're not teaching her what a strong, loving relationship is. You know you will be fine on your own. When you are ready and the time is right, you will find a man who actually wants to be with you and wants to get married..but you need to leave this relationship today and move on. As hard as that may be, you know what you must do. Have enough love and self worth to know that you deserve more than what this guy can offer you..(or can't offer you).

  • Your right....I do not know why I have put up with it for so long....sometimes I think there is something wrong with me...but maybe he does not love me and I should move on. Thanks

  • Don't be so h****** yourself. Sometimes you need a different perspective from someone who doesn't know you or your situation. Your guy is someone you have known for 12 years and have invested so much of your time, love and life into..and it's just not paying off in the way that you had hoped or wanted. Nothing is wrong with you, you're holding on to a dream that just may not come true this this guy. He may not be capable of being able to love you or to commit to you in the way that you want..ever. And that's okay. You need to live your life for you. Sometimes women stay with the wrong man because they don't think that they can do better. It's really about self-worth. And you know deep down at the very core of you, you are. Start working on you. Love yourself enough to leave and begin to work on yourself. Look, you have one life to live. If it is really important for you to be in a committed relationship and be married, then go and find a guy who wants the same things as you. Don't settle for this guy and don't give him an ultimatum, he needs to do so some growing of his own. If you stay, he will just continue to disappoint you. You can do this, girl! Again, if you need a reason..set an example for your daughter.

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