What shall I do....

At this point I'm about half way through my very first semester in college and I realize that college is a huge thing to take on and it takes a while to get used to but what I don't understand is why I feel like I don't necessarily fit in and why when I'm surrounded by thousands of people I feel so terribly lonely. I am fortunate enough that I don't have to pay for my tuition because one of my parents works here however thats just another thing pressuring me as well. I haven't fully decided what I am setting out to be and though I don't believe this will be my only education I still feel horribly pressured to figure out just what it is Im going to do after this step in my life. I find myself depressed and frustrated to the point that when I try to do my school work I cant even focus and never feel like I'm putting 100% into it. That is so unlike me...as a high school student i held two or more leadership positions as well as participated in countless extra circular activities and had As. I understand that you wont always get As or even B's in college and that is something you just have to deal with in the transitional phase but I don't think I should be feeling so insecure with what I am doing and wish that I could just flip a switch in my mind to make all the anxiety and depression stop. I don't know what else to do. Ive gone to our career services office, advising, teachers, upperclassman and I still haven't gotten a good bit of advice to help push me in the right direction. I'm tired of getting worked up over nothing at all and quite frankly so are my family members only because they just want to see me be successful....

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  • Just don't get recruited into a cult. They target college students like yourself who are feeling lonely and insecure with techniques like 'love bombing' to make you feel accepted and build emotional dependency on them. Learn to recognize the signs and avoid becoming a victim.

  • I was in same position as you last year. In fact, I got so depressed and sick that my appendix got ruptured and had a surgery in the finals week (so unfortunate). Here is what I learned, you really don't need to have friends in order to go through college. I honestly have 0 friends so far and I am still doing well. You will eventually make friends when you decide exactly what you are going to be. Also, don't let the grades let you down. I have never failed a class in my life and just did for the first time last year and it was good lesson. Sometimes you work hard but things go against you all the time and as long as you keep studying and doing your homework, you will get through it. Wish you the best..!!

  • You need to take some of the pressure off of yourself and enjoy the college experience. Meet people and join groups and get involved. Join a sorority (or a fraternity - sorry, not sure if you said if you were male or female) that can be a good way to make friends. Take classes that interest you, that may lead to you to your major or career goals. Other options, take a semester abroad. Even careers that you a have a little interest in, try to go to a corporation and see if you can shadow someone for the day or have an informational interview. Also know, that sometimes what you major in won't always be the career path you end up in. You sound very intelligent, so you will succeed at whatever you choose. But whatever you choose, make sure that decision is one you make for yourself. Don't let others do that for you. Life is at your feet, go and take advantage of it and enjoy it.

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