Baby too soon

I read somewhere recently that one in three girls have an unplanned pregnancy, so no matter what anyone says, yours is not an unusual or unforgiveable situation. It is unpleasant (for you), but it's either correctable or survivable. You'll be fine, either way. Be well!

You did nothing wrong. And whatever you decide will be what's right. Best wishes.

It's fine to be respectful of the father and his feelings, but it's your body and so the decision has to rest with you alone. It's a very difficult position to be in, but there's comfort in knowing that other women have been there before. If you have friends who have had abortions, or who considered abortion but rejected it, talk to them. Don't ask them what you should do, but just listen to them speak about their own experiences and accept those experiences as background. I know you'll do what's right.....FOR YOU.

^ agreed ^ a guy will tell you one thing one day and then tell you something entirely different the next. he willprobably change his mind about the abortion and see it your way if you give him time. that assumes of course that you either definitely want to keep the baby or are still unsure of what you want to do. but i assume you still have some time to decide so take as much of it as you can and see how things are down the road a little way further. good luck!!!

I thought only women did all that flip flopping?

LOL. That's an old husbands' tale. ;>

Keep the baby, by all means. I think the father will eventually come around. Guys are such clods about this stuff, but most of the time they do figure it out. I wish you and your baby well.

It really doesn't matter what decision you make. You're a ** and that's not going to change no matter what you do.

I'm a widow. A cancer survivor. I volunteer ALL my time. I had intimate relations with a man I'm falling in love with. If that's your definition of a **, than you're right.

I hope making that comment made you feel good about yourself.

You knowingly had unprotected ** with a man you've known for seven weeks, and now you want to pretend to be noble and saintly and loving and confused? And you want sympathy? Forgive me, but you assumed the risk of precisely this outcome when you took him between your legs and cared not at all for him or you or a baby, but thought only of your own momentary pleasure. If you're genuinely "shocked" by the result, then you're genuinely stupid.

38 is way too old to be mystified about how babies are made. And anyone like that needs to not be in charge of raising another human being.

Thank you for replying to a SEVEN YEAR old post. And the judgement was great too. Go to **.

People have committed suicide over people saying things like that online. Enjoy your time as a cyber bully, tough guy.

That's horrible. You're a horrible person.

Think about both options completely in depth. Think about how your life would turn out with a baby, and how it would without. Where do you see your self happier? Its YOUR life. People can influence you all they want, because that's what they want. This is all you. Let it come from the heart. Just make sure what ever you chose, it was your decision, not anyone elses.

Thank you for saying something helpful and sensitive to the situation! That's great advice. :)

Glad I could help! :)

Tell him you are keeping the baby and if he doesnt want to be involved he doesnt have to sign the birth certificate, he doesnt have to be involved.

I OBVIOUSLY knows how it happens, as does he. He KNEW I wasn't on birth control. But, now that it's a reality, he's having second thought. Thanks for your incredibly intelligent insight.

Yes, he knew full well I wasn't on birth control AND that I was about to ovulate as I check every month. I would never trap anyone.

It's not as simple as him "being an **." He's scared too.

Except neither of you could figure out how a condom works...?
People like this "accidentally" reproducing is why the world is a crowded mess.

This is a seven year old post **. And he claimed he WANTED a baby. Not that it's any of your business you fat slob.

Did you tell him you were on birth control (or sterile) when, in fact, you were not? In other words did you trick him into believing pregnancy would be prevented or was he aware that it was a risk when he ** you without a condom? If he knew he was taking a chance he has no right to complain about it now but if he thought you were taking steps to prevent it you have no right to force fatherhood upon him.

Don't kill it!! How do you know if you will ever get pregant again if you abort? You can't change your mind after an abortion. If you decide you don't want the baby you could give he/she to a couple that is ready for a baby.

You're own feelings about abortion are NOT helpful to me. AT ALL. It's either termination or I'm keeping the baby. And it's not a baby yet. It's a group of sells. Keep your antiquated views on women's health to yourself.

Jeez, why all the unwarranted hostility? Did you even read the comment? This person wasn't making a moral judgment, or even asking you to do that on your own. He or she was just saying that an abortion eliminates any possibility of a future change of mind or heart, where if you keep it, you have other options. If the use of the word "kill" is what offends you, then an abortion clearly isn't the course for you.

Hey! I had skin cancer surgery this week AND my mother fell and broke her ankle. PLUS I'M ** PREGNANT. I think I have the right to be a little hostile. Shut the ** up if you have nothing constructive to say.

You never "have the right" to be hostile to someone who is trying to help you. In exactly the same way that you never "have the right" to be, for example, an **.

Keep the baby,its probably the only one you will ever get at your age,** the guy's selfish desires.I am a grandpa of 1 and have 4 kids,I tell you that so you know that I know what am talking about.You terminate that now and get pregnant again in a few months and keep it or not get pregnant ever.Whats the point of even listening to this guy? Good luck and if he does not want you come to me and we can raise the kid together:)