I don't know...

So about an hour ago, a friend of mine who i met through an art site got into an argument, she was saying that she wash' pretty and that no one could love her. i spent an hour trying to tell her different...but in the end she only got more angry at me, then she started making remakrs about killing herself so i snapped and told her that i wasn't going to let her pity herself over something like that, i gave her reasons why she was good enough for other people. then she got even more angry and started to ask me why i was her friend, since she had lost a couple not too long ago, i told her my reasons were because i thought she was fun to talk to, she was funny, creative and overall i thought she was a nice person. we hit that point were there was nothing but silence for awhile, then she said that she was going home to go to be bed, and she said she loved me and that she doesn't know what she'd do with out me. i got teary eyed and told her i felt similar, we talk every day, i wake up and start my day, because i know she'll be there. but now....i don't know....will we still be friends by tomorrow...or will things just disintegrate in front of us....i really don't want to loose her, and i think she doesn't want to loose me...but i just don't know where to go from here and what's going to happened next...i just don't know.

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  • Have you ever read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"? When a woman talks about her problems she doesn't want you to offer constructive solutions, she just wants you to listen. She was expressing her feelings of insecurity, which we all have from time to time, and rather than just being a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to cry on you tried to 'fix' the problem by making her feel better about herself. From her perspective you invalidated what she was feeling by contradicting her. If her feelings aren't reflective of reality you don't have to agree with her, just say something like "We all feel that way sometimes." or "I understand how you feel." Let her know you 'get' where she's coming from even if you disagree.

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