Lost wife

That apparently my husband of seven months doesn't know if he loves me anymore. We've been together for almost 5 years and he told me two weeks ago that he feels like we've been going through the motions since we got engaged. He thought this feeling would pass but it hasn't. I am so stressed over this. I don't know what to do. We both have been so busy with work and school that I guess I miss the signs but my family is so taken a back so they apparently didn't notice anything. It's been two weeks since we've held hands, kissed, or made love. This last Saturday he told me if I wanted it I could have it but his heart wouldn't be in it. I also confess that I've started cutting since he broke the news because he doesn't like to see me cry and I don't want to punch anything. When he saw the cuts all he said was "That's a stupid thing to do." Sorry this is turning into such a long confession. This is the end of my confession thank you for reading.

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  • Agree with the comment below. A therapist may be what you both need together and individually. Relationships and marriage are work. This is a two person tango, you are not responsible for this. If he needs something, he needs to speak up and same goes for you. Life is busy and you don't say you have kids, so wait until that happens. Then you'll truly understand the concept of busy. But you've been together for over 5 years. This is just another bump in the road. Love, l***, like changes overtime. Doesn't mean it's over. It means you work through it. Maybe he was expecting rockets and fireworks again? The two of you doing whatever is needed to make this work is worth every effort. Stop cutting, that doesn't solve anything and there are more constructive ways to deal with your problems. Best of luck to you.

  • I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this, especially so soon after your wedding, which is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. I'm not generally inclined toward recommending counseling or therapy, but in this situation I think it's called for. If he won't go, go on your own. You need some outside perspective on what's happening, factually and emotionally. All best.

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