I'm alone and scared.

I've never been in a relationship. I've never even kissed a girl.

I never go looking for anything that's a one-off thing or something that lacks any significance. I want a proper, meaningful relationship. I see other young adults or late teens engaging in relationships quite happily, whether they last for weeks, months or years and it kills me inside. I always do the right thing, be the nice guy, but after all this time no one cares.

I've liked a few girls in the past, but none of them wanted to even give me a chance. It breaks my heart because all of these people, for however long or short a time I've known them, I've felt some sort of connection that seems to be a one-way street. I've tried so hard to find something positive to think but every night when I go to sleep knowing there is no one out there who cares for me is getting to me.

There's someone I met recently who seems different to anyone else I've liked. I look at her and something makes me think she's incredibly special. But I know that if I were to walk up and say that, or type it in a message on Facebook, it would be the last I ever see or hear from her. So I'm trying to talk to them, build up confidence to ask her out, but I feel the same thing happening as it always does: I'm losing them, I don't know what to do and I'm scared.

I know I'm only young, and people always say that it will happen, but I don't want to wait for years to be happy. I've spent my entire life so far waiting and it's destroying me.

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  • You sound like you have no boundaries, which is a recipe for a miserable existence. I'm not saying you have to be (or even should be) an a****** to women, but you have to be honest and up-front about who you are and what you're willing to put up with. If she drops hints, ask questions. If she asks you to do something that makes you uncomfortable or like you're being used, (e.g., help her move), then ask for compensation or simply refuse. They will respect you for it, trust me. The bad ones will move on and the good ones will like you for it. I recommend reading Mark Manson and similar authors on the subject.

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