I'm getting married in 13 days. I've

I'm getting married in 13 days. I've recently starting hanging out with a guy I work with. I've been hanging out in the area he works in, hoping to see him. We've recently become better friends, and we talk all the time at work. We text message each other multiple times daily. We've been out for ice cream after work, and have spent hours sitting and talking, till very late. This week I asked him if he wanted to hang out on Saturday night, when I knew my fiance would be out of town. We went to a play, and then went back to his house and talked for hours. We went out and got breakfast at 1am, and went and walked around a college campus. I did not get home until 4am. My fiance was waiting up, worried that I wasn't answering my phone. I lied to him as to where I was. When I spend time with this guy I have butterflies the whole time, there is a lot of chemistry. It feels like we're dating, and I'm not doing anything to prevent that. Nothing sexual has happened, but I'm not sure that I would say no if it did. If anything, I would like for something to happen, just so I could take that memory away with me. He knows I am getting married, and yet he is doing nothing to dissuade me either. This is not a man I could see myself being in a long term relationship with, and I have no intention of leaving my fiance, but I am strangely drawn to this guy. I'm not sure if I am nervous about the wedding, or just see this guy as a challenge, in a quest for male attention. I should have never let myself get to this point, but now that I am I don't want to do what I know I should do to get out.

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  • It is plain that you should NOT get married!!

  • You are not ready to get married at all.You need to call off this wedding immediately.If you can actually go hang out with another guy or have "butterflies" for anyone but the guy you are marrying,you need to stay single until you know what you want or you will become a divorce statistic.

  • Bad decision to lie to him and hang out with the guy. But you didn't do anything yet so as the above commenter said, do you and your fiance a favor and walk away.


  • Do yourself and your future spouse a favor and walk away from the other guy right now. 20 years down the road it is much better to be wondering 'what if' than carry a regret for all those 20 years.

  • Nicole is that you? You better stop before you get caught girl!!!! Joey probably has it all already on tape!!!

  • Wow....I'm glad I'm not in that situation

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