I've started talking to a girl that I

I've started talking to a girl that I knew from my childhood, but never really talked to seriously before. We have a lot in common and are never short of something to say to each other. I've had some heartbreak, in the past, and I was thinking that maybe this was my lucky break when I started looking at some more recent pictures of her. She was never a small person, and that was no big deal, but she seems to have gotten really overweight.

She's such a great person that I was really thinking of a relationship, but I know that I won't be physically attracted to her unless she loses weight. For me that's fine, because I'm not a very physical person. I have heavenly aspirations, and have often felt that the monastic way of life might suit me well. I just can't see myself telling her how I feel about her beautiful personality, and shining spirit, and then hurting her by telling her I'm not attracted to her because of purely physical reasons.

Should I ask her to be my girlfriend, and then hope I can convince her to lose the weight and support her through it? I'm really concerned for her own health, more than anything. I'm already head over heels for her personality.

Or should I remain strictly friends, and risk losing out because of my own cowardice?

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  • Nothing as good ass a big fat ass

  • yeah, go for it!

    you'll regret it if you don't, and what's the WORST that could happen? one or both of your feelings get hurt. it's better than always wondering what could have been.

    just go jogging with her and stuff?

  • Just make sure you work out with her so she won't know the real reason the two of you go to the gym

  • I think you should go for it. Personality won't change, but health can. Maybe she just lacks the right motivation... and you could help with that?

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