My wife and I have finally reach the conclusion that I am Gay and she will have to settle for nothing but my fingers to stimulate her. I can not get a erection for penatration and performing oral to a woman is just not in my ability any more. We love and deeply care for each other but I can not continue to hide my orientation. She has known for a long time but we just concluded that this is where we are. I wish we could each find men that we could date and have s** with on occasion.