15 lost virginity, regrets, HELP

Ok so I am 15 and am dating a 16 year old, Matt. Me and Matt have only been dating a little over a month, but we're talking a while before that. Matt, however has had s** before with his former girlfriend many times. For me, Matt was my first kiss. Tonight when we hung out he brought up the topic of s** and how he wants to wait till I feel comfortable, he didn't pressure me at all and I told him I felt ready but wanted the moment to be special so didn't want to ruin it by rushing, but he promised that's not how it would be. So I agreed to it because I felt like he really wanted to and truth be told I did also, and he wore a condom and it hurt a lot while happening. It still kinda hurts now and I feel so much regret because we hadent even said we loved eachother but I have a lot of feelings for her so I felt like it would all be okay. Sooo many questions now like should I do it again?? Because he said he wants to buy more condoms. Also, when my doctor asks if I engage in sexual activity should I say yes (even if this is the last time I do it), even tho I don't want my parents to find out AT ALLL. Please leave me answers to these questions and any other advice thank u!

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  • It is unfortunate that we are taught that love must be the key ingredient for s**. Its not true or needed to satisfy a human desire. You may have been ready or not, but your maturity level must be where you can understand what you're doing and if you're doing it for yourself or for someone else. In terms of s**, no person can tell you when you're ready, no religion should ever make s** a taboo issue, it rushed young people to it and parents must develop an understanding that if they have human children, one day, it will happen. Pressure of any kind can kill the experience and the regret or guilt plays a role in hating what you did, including hating yourself, and NO ONE should ever feel that way. The only thing I regret is never having children because I was taught to never make a girl or women pregnant without marriage. Well, marriage was a joke and love fades away just as the weather does. Be who you are, of course be careful for yourself and enjoy life without regret.

  • My questions to this lady and lessons for ladies generally: WHO opens legs for s**? Who get's pregnant? Who bears the guilt of abortion (the man shares in the consequences though; see Proverbs 6:16) and cries every second/everyday? Who gets emotionally unstable? Who is heartbroken and shattered and confused? Who has insecurity and low self esteem? Who is seen as the w****? Who has suicidal thoughts (yes when you murder a human being or more in abortion etc. see Gen. 9:6)? Who sulks even a decade after the man has moved on, married and had kids? Who is dumped? On and on and on. LADIES, WHY NOT CLOSE THIS HOLE CALLED V***** UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED? THE TEST THAT A MAN "LOVES YOU" IS THAT HE IS ABLE TO RESPECT YOUR BODY TILL HE PAYS YOUR BRIDE PRICE. When the man finishes with you he moves on to the next "gullible victim" Leave such men who are only interested in you body (no; just interested in your v***** and b******) alone and face your life and make it right with God and do not kill kids etc. Jesus says; "whoever comes to me I will not cast away". Matthew 7:6 "Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

  • First time always hurts. Won't be as bad next time. Make sure your fully relaxed and wet. Make sure he starts foreplay with you first down there to get you aroused. :)

  • Its ok don't feel that bad i lost it at 13 and almost got pragnet and my parents fond out

  • Matt should have taken the time to lick your c*** and make you c** many times before penetrating you. I would have licked you and make you c** numerously until you are sure ready. Im 17 male.

  • Break up with this guy and preserve your remaining pride as a lady. At 15, s** shouldn't be your preoccupation. Getting good education should be paramount. Tell the doctor that you had it once and that it was a mistake. You don't yet understand what love is. Suggest you study the New Testament to get better in your relationship with the Lord and to understand Love.

    1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)

    4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    YOUR BOYFRIEND was not patient with you and he was SELF SEEKING; just to satisfy his l*** but unfortunately, l*** cannot be satisfied.

  • Him and her reference does not track.
    I assume you are the girl however it sounds like Matt is a manipulator and is only interested in s** for s** sake. He will leave you like a grain of sand on a beach.

  • Too late for regrets.

  • Just tell the doc that you did it once but regretted it and that you'll not do it again until you're really ready.Meanwhile, tell Matt it was a mistake & that you both shouldn't continue having s** until you've absolutely sure of your feelings for him. You shouldn't let him treat you as s** object.

  • Correction: ....until you're absolutely...

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