I'm in love with my best friend

I fell in love with my best friend, from the very first moment I saw him I was drawn to him. We have been best friends since then, 3 years ago, and he doesn't know that I would give anything for him.

We are far from each others "type" but I swear when he looks at me I can see it in his eye. I love my friend and would never want to risk our relationship for something that I might be misinterpreting. He doesn't know that every word he speaks sinks into my soul or that the first thought in my mind when I wake up is him.

We have fought on occasion, mostly about really stupid stuff but it has been pretty bad here and there.

Over the past year our relationship has begun to sour, we both want to be apart of the others life but we both have our own problems. I think we are redirecting our feelings for each other into anger and frustration about our current situations. Now when we are around each other we don't know what to say. Our conversations are about as deep as the conversation you would have with a stranger on the bus.

I miss him every minute of every day. I wish I could tell him that. I wish I could tell him that every time he has ever touched me has been the best moment of my life, My heart breaks every night without him and my days drag on.

I don't know what to do. Our friendship seems to be on the mend but what I really desire is something I doubt I will ever be able to express.

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  • Don't live in regret. Tell him how you feel. Take that chance. You have more to lose by not saying something. He could get a girlfriend and then you never find that moment. Wouldn't you rather have taken the risk, put it all out there and see what happens? Yes, you risk being hurt and vulnerable. But you could also gain a boyfriend. And if he's not able to be your friend after you tell him, then at least you know. You can deal with anything.

  • Hi. I am married to my best friend. We were friends first and then we became boyfriend and girlfriend and we were married a year and a half later. We will be married 10 years this year.

    I was afraid to tell him how I felt because I valued his friendship and I never wanted to lose that. He did tell me first. He told me that he wanted to date me and at first I said no, because the whole not wanting to ruin what we had. Eventually, I said yes to that date, because he never wanted to lose friendship.

    I would just be up front about liking him, but that you value your friendship too. If he isn't interested in dating, let him know that it's okay and you still want to be friends.

    I hope you find yourself dating your best friend.


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