Finding the strength

To break up with him.

It's hard, because he really is such a good man. He does his absolute best. I love him... but I feel like a toxin to him. He's too busy to deal with my depression and insecurities. We have different "ideals" where I get extremely annoyed when he doesn't do what he says as he does it (which is all the time) and he gets upset because "something came up" and this is a part of him I don't know if I'll ever be able to accept, which isn't fair to him.

I want so badly to free him from this, it feels like he's only with me out of an obligation or maybe he just likes being in a relationship. But I really do want the best for him.

I just can't do it though. I don't want to, but I feel like it's the right thing to do for him.

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  • You lie, he's a pain in the ass and you want him gone! I don't blame you one bit. He sounds like a lazy excuse maker!

  • The decision you make should be for you, not him. Don't assume anything. He's an adult, he knows where the door is. But before you make this type of decision, why don't you get the help you need. If you are dealing with your depression and working through your insecurities, you could see the situation a little clearer. Call your doctor today. And then when you're on a better path you can look at your relationship with different eyes to really see if this relationship is for you or not. And then consider couples counseling and work on communication. As for Ideals could same or different with someone else. But there may always be something and that is what you compromise on. But where you have an expectation maybe you work on not being able to control every outcome and be more accepting. And he can work on his follow through when he makes promises. Relationships are work. And if you're with someone for a long time, you do deal with things like anxiety, depression and other life challenges.

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