I'll have some fries please

Super annoyed. I can't seem to get over the fundamental inconsideration of my boyfriend. I just finished helping my boyfriend paint his new place. He said he was hungry so we got in the car and drove to McDonalds. He ordered himself and then...nothing. I waited for him to turn to me and ask if I wanted something and nope. Just drove to the window to pay. I was totally flabbergasted. Dude, I just spent the last two and a half hours painting your s***** new house. You think you could have had the common courtesy to f****** to ask me perhaps if I may want something. Here is a tip fellas, if she puts your d*** in her mouth on the regular, f****** ask her is she wants a damn drink. This relationship will most likely end in the very near future. SMDH that I ever dated down.

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  • One possible explanation for his behavior, is you didn't say what you wanted while he was ordering, so he assumed you didn't want anything.

  • True, but I just thought it was a common courtesy thing. Anyone should ask no matter who is in your car. It is just polite. This isn't the first time I have felt slighted by this person. I think I am just expecting too much in another person. I feel it would be best to be single long enough to lower my standards.

  • I agree with that scenario too.

  • Hahahaha

  • To H*** with that selfish b******.

  • You need to tell him BYE FELICIA

  • Ur stupiiiid!! Say hi to Marcus for me

  • So inconsiderate! Was that the first time he neglected you? Did he say anything? Did you? That can be very telling action of things to come. Think you're right to move on.

  • He is really great at expressing in words that he loves me. It is just that though words. There is never any action. No thoughtful gestures, never plans something for us to do, there have been other instances where he was totally just clueless with basics of dating a chick. I guess he just thinks no real effort should be needed for a natural relationship. Whatever, I got divorced because I didn't feel like a priority.

  • There are some people who are certainly clueless. A lot of it can be what they were exposed to growing up. He may have never had a role model show him how to do things and it's obviously not something that comes natural to him. But I think there are also expectations (as women) that guys understand the romance factor. Like the planning thing. We want them (or expect them) to remember or to just plan special outings and without us planting the seed. And really, some guys don't get it. I remember a friend dating some guy and this was her big issue with him. And he said, I don't know how to do it. But I'm happy to pay for whatever you want to do. It doesn't seem like it would be such a difficult feat, but if someone is just unaware or clueless, then maybe it is.

  • Thank you for this well thought out response. I appreciate the insight. I have also considered this as a possibility. That being said, him paying for stuff is another issue. I was paying for a good bit of the stuff in the beginning and I finally had to explain that I didn't think this was fair. While I certainly don't mind going halvsies, I think I shouldn't be expected to pay for most of the outings just because it was my idea. That was just another conversation I felt like should have been common sense that I had to spell out. It was extremely awkward. I have also had to spell out what I would like as far as dating is concerned. Netflix and chill is not a date. Going to your friend's house is not a date. I think we should go on two dates per month, I don't think that is too much to ask for. I have never dated this type of guy before. I am trying to approach it from the perspective that all people are different, but I am thinking our differences are just way too vast.

  • Oh girl. OMG! I think you have gone above and beyond. I thought maybe it was a couple of instances. But it's almost everything and anything, this guy is a bit clueless. I think if I was dating this guy, my head would be spinning. I'm sure he has some great qualities and that is why you're with him. But there are probably a lot of WTF moments that leave you scratching your head. Like how he gets to point A and point B or even has any friends. How has he had a girlfriend before? Please say he is a greek god and amazing in bed. And you have a heart of gold and the patience of a saint. Of course, it sounds extremely frustrating to deal with a man who has no clue about consideration. But on the flip side there are a number of other dealbreakers that could also be happening. But I have to agree with you, that it may be time to let this one go. At some point, you have to wonder how much are you expected to really teach someone before they get the lesson.

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