Want to be parent? Don't Do It!

Parenthood is a trap!! A trap placed into a pretty box and wrapped with an even prettier bow. Even on good days, those days when you're reminded of the love you have for your child, it still feels like a trap. Like having a good paying job but never having the time to travel. Except you're not paid, and the bad often outweighs the good. Save yourselves! No one told me what it would be like. What it would REALLY feel like, to be a parent. The world likes to fill people's heads with the fabrication of a fairy tale life after someone becomes a parent. But no one has the b**** to say it stinks. Like a punishment. Think back to a job you had that you absolutely hated. Now imagine you were never allowed to leave that job. Never. Ever. I can be as humorous or as heavy about this as possible. But it will always be the truth. I have a few years left of being the hands-on parent (child is nearly 18). After that... life. Living. Hysterectomy. I knew it was a trap from day one. But I've made it this far. Though with a few close call mental breakdowns in between. Heed my warning. Really think about it. Lay down the fuzzy feel you get when you're around kids, or the pressure you're getting from family and friends and really, really think about it. All the best to you.

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  • You're right, parenthood is not for everybody. I always knew, even when I was very young that I wasn't cut out for it. I never had kids, and now that I'm in my 50s, I'm more certain thane ever that I made the right decision.

  • You are right thanks for the warning

  • I think you just weren't meant to be a parent. I have a child and I think it's pretty great. We have so much fun together. We go places and do things. Christmas is far more magic with kids around. It's truly a wonderful experience to get to raise my child. It's not all roses and sunshine, and sometimes it does downright suck. But I wouldn't trade any of it for anything. My child is incredible.

  • Isn't that sweet. Well, smugfuck, like the person below me says... many, many people don't find out until after the trigger's been pulled that they don't want to be, or aren't suited for, raising other human beings. Not that deliberately ignorant people like you will ever admit it.

    You're singing about magical Christmases and crap like that, but what happens on the bad days-- or when no one else is looking? I'll bet you do things with your "incredible" child that would look very, very sick in the unforgiving light of day. Go ahead, deny it.

  • I don't disagree with you there: I wasn't meant to be a parent. Not everyone is. It's such a shame that some of us find out this fact AFTER we've had a child or children. Such is the cruel joke of life. Glad you enjoy it so much. I did too at some points. But I can't deny the overall sucking feeling far outweighs the 'pretty great'. I honestly wish you a lifetime of parental bliss.

  • I don't have any children and don't intend to.
    I've always known I didn't want children,from the age of six years old.

    I was a secondary parent, to my youngest brother,when I was six years old.I was a child myself and I think this is the reason,I don't want and feel the need,to become a parent.
    A person doesn't have to give birth to a child,to be a mother.Unfortunately for me,I was a mother figure,from six years old.

    I'm now 31 and within a loving relationship,of seven and a half years.My partner has the same view points as me,in regards to children.
    His older brother recently had a child and also his oldest cousin.I adore those children,but I don't envy their parents.

    I don't regret my choice and neither does my partner.I intend to get a Hysterectomy at 40.

    I'm sorry you feel trapped,with being a parent.
    I can relate to a certain extend,as becoming a parent figure at six years old,was forced upon me.I felt trapped aswell and unprepared.Being a child at the time,albeit,a mature child,it still doesn't prepare or equip you for parenting.

    Not long to go now,until your child is 18 and then you can relax more :)

  • Hi. I totally agree with you and thank you for your honesty. I thought about having a kid (I'm a woman), but then reality hit and I said no way! To be honest with you, I have an issue. Because I was raped and have been abused by men in the past, I have a little problem with them; even babies and toddlers. Seeing their little penises makes me angry for some reason, and I want to hurt them. I am addicted to watching circumcision videos and love to hear them scream b***** murder when they're being cut. It makes me happy, but I wish I was the one doing the cutting. Having a male child would be a huge mistake for me, and I know this. I used to be a Doninatrix, and have been in extreme s&m videos where I have pretended to mutilate guys penises and b****. Loved it. I hate little boys, and don't know what I'd do if I got pregnant and had one. I'd abort "it," but refuse to put myself in that situation to begin with!

  • I agree.Seek psychiatric,counselling or psychological therapy!!

  • ^^^^ please seek psychiatric help. PLEASE!

  • I completely agree that you need to seek help. I don't even say that to be mean. This just isn't a normal or healthy way to think/behave.

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